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What worries me most is how my sister will mentally go through this period. And then I want us to be warm and for our house to be fenced off. Simply, to feel more secure than now.
Thus begins the story of Milica Bezarević (18) from the village of Stubline near Obrenovac, who was left alone with her sister Marija (16) in a ramshackle house after her mother passed away less than a month ago.
Life did not caress them, they matured overnight. For two and a half years, she and her mother struggled with her serious illness: they breastfed, fed, bathed, changed diapers … They did not sleep at night. Tears welled up as they saw their mother in terrible pain. Unfortunately, the disease was stronger and her mother passed away at age 45.
The Bezarević sisters’ house must be diverted from the main road in the village, and an unpaved road leads to their house: an unfenced courtyard, a house in the middle of a field surrounded by forests and fields. The Bezarević sisters receive us with a serious, visibly broken grief over the loss of their mother.
They moved from Belgrade to Stubline immediately after Milica’s birth, and about ten years ago they were left alone with her mother, who divorced her father.
– My mother was a dragon woman, she worked a lot, at the same time in the gerontology center, in the market and besides everything, she took care of older women. She was always sacrificed and we lacked nothing. We never feel a lack of love or attention. Mom made sure we felt protected and safe: Milica begins the story.
And then the mother got sick. The diagnosis was breast cancer.
– She has always been optimistic. Whenever she came back from chemotherapy, she acted like she was having coffee with a friend. She did not want to be a burden to us and when she had the operation, she tried to keep us away from all that and not feel anything – says younger sister Marija.
After a while, it seemed as if he had healed, but last summer his bones ached, he had difficulty moving … Then the doctors diagnosed him with bone cancer, which metastasized in several places.
– My mother was a health worker and always responsible for her health. We don’t think of anything bad, because she taught us to think of the beautiful. For this reason, we were not fully aware of the seriousness of the disease until she fell into bed – explains Marija.
With a lump in their throats, they describe the period when they saw their mother slowly wither away.
– During the last months, he has not smiled sincerely, the sparkle he had was not visible in his eyes. We literally watched it slowly disappear. I slept with her, covered her, fed her, gave her medicine, changed her diapers. I haven’t been out since January – says Milica.
They were assisted by several acquaintances of their mother and a work colleague who brought diapers and necessary things for their mother. And then came the two most difficult weeks.
There are no words to explain how they felt on July 26.
– I remember that Milica woke me up around 5 in the morning and told me that my mother was not well. We sat next to her until that happened … I had to do everything that had to be done, because my sister is a minor. There were two hundred people at the funeral, I saw most of them for the first time in my life, and when they all left, only Marija’s friends stayed with us – says Milica.
She is aware that at this moment she cannot allow herself to cry.
– I know I have to move on. I have not fallen mentally and I cannot explain it, but I feel some strength. Of course it’s hard for me and I miss my mom. Now that I have to finish those other things, I can’t afford to sit around for a whole day doing nothing. When all that is over, I can allow that luxury to sink in or make me feel bad, says this brave girl.
They have the most help from the parents of Marija’s friends, who organized after the funeral to tidy up her house as much as they could.
– They replaced the windows, put some spotlights around the house, called to change the light bulbs on the pole, changed the elements in the kitchen and the tiles in a room. They fixed the clogged plumbing in the bathroom from which the water would not enter the drain, as well as the boiler that was on while we were showering – Milica is thankful.
However, it remains to replace the wooden joinery on the two terraces and the rotten door to the room. The house is two stories high and the biggest problem is the leaking roof and this is clearly seen on the walls throughout the house. In addition, there are huge holes between the ceiling and the walls through which sunlight penetrates almost every room on the floor.
– We have been living like this for years and we don’t realize that we are missing something. The most important thing for us is to repair the roof, make the insulation and the facade. Also, I would like our yard to be fenced in. From any direction, someone can enter our yard, so animals and dogs often enter us, and in previous years, people would pass through our yard because it is far away for them. We are not comfortable, you are scared when you do not have a fence – Milica is honest.
As they grew up alone with their mother, the obligations regarding the maintenance of the property are implicit for them, and they note that it is not difficult for them to cut the lawn and cut the bushes in the house.
– That is normal, as for everyone who has a patio. Also, I change the bulbs, when the fuse opens, I see what it is and I change it. In winter, I chop wood, clean the stove, says Milica.
Due to her dedication to her mother, Milica had to enroll in the fourth year of the “Nadežda Petrović” Faculty of Medicine in Zemun, specializing in cosmetology, and has two more exams left. Marija is starting her third year at the same school and is an excellent student.
– We go to school one week and online the next. As for the online classes, my friend’s parents provided me with a computer and the Internet. Also, a woman gave me school supplies, a friend’s sister gives me books. By the way, I live in a house in Zemun, but I think about how it will be for my sister when she is alone while I am in the house during the week – she points out.
They don’t know how they will survive the winter.
Last year they heated themselves with electricity, because that was more convenient for their mother, and they didn’t even have firewood. However, that brought in huge electricity bills, which they only recently managed to repay.
– This winter, we do not know how we will warm ourselves, probably with firewood, but we do not know how we will get them. We both can’t imagine being hot in this house. It was always so cold in the room that clothes would freeze. In winter, we never had the whole house at our disposal, because we always heat only part of it – explains Milica.
How to help
All people of good will who want to help children can send an SMS to the humanitarian number 2552 or pay funds to the current account in dinars of the “Blic Foundation”: 2750010221949709 90 or to the accounts in foreign currency 10221949724 45 – for payments in euros; 10221949711 84 – for payments in Swiss francs and 10221949 717 66 – for payments in dollars, OTP banka Srbija, ad Belgrade.
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