The doctor advised me to have an abortion. I’m glad I didn’t hear her.

“Unfortunately, it appears to be heading for a miscarriage, or a trisomy 13 or 18. But I probably fear most Down syndrome.”

Debattinnlegg

These were the words The doctor told us after an excruciatingly long ultrasound where one and the other were not as they should be.

In hindsight, I wish I had enough trouble telling her: saying that Downs was not something I feared, and that she imposed biases on me that I didn’t want to have. He wasn’t that good at leveling. No way.

We were just told that the little life was more likely to occupy our entire lives, if it was a life. And what the doctor said by increasing death and diseases incompatible with life, and then saying that, above all, he feared that Down syndrome was like saying that having a child with Down syndrome is worse than not having this baby at all.

So she recommended Strong abortion. She told us several times, so she finally felt uncomfortable saying again, “We probably won’t have an abortion.”

Then he ended the exchange of words saying “you should think about it.” Then he gave us a list of statistics for the various trisomies, and they told us to go home and Google Google Trisomi 13, 18, and 21 (Down syndrome). We did not obtain more information.

I am in disarray now. So much so that I get sad and angry when I think of this exact statement.
So much so that I simply can’t help but share our story. Just these days, the Labor Party, the Progress Party and the Party of the Socialist Left hope to obtain a majority in the Storting so that, among other things, all pregnant women are offered fetal diagnoses and, in the long term, the NIPT test for everyone. This is a good alternative to amniotic fluid testing (which carries a risk), but it will also allow more people to discover chromosomal abnormalities and abortion opportunities, for example, children with Down syndrome.

I had never imagined that I would be so involved in such a case. Most of the time I have let Humla Suse, happy, be lucky, but because those who adopted this believe that parents who are told that the child may have Down syndrome will have a good follow up from the doctors, enough information to take Good decisions and being closely followed, I can’t help but say something.

Because i know Too good this is not the case. I know that the possibility of getting bad or no information is definitely present. I know that the possibility of feeling like a burden on society if you don’t want an abortion is great. And I know that if I hadn’t been so aware, or had such a strong husband and family around me, choosing not to have a child with Down syndrome would have been much easier than choosing to have one. Unfortunately, I don’t think it is a unique case.

For me, having children with Down syndrome so far has been a joy. I know it is not for everyone. I know that there are many who have to get used to thinking, fighting the systems and facilitating their children.

Think about whether the resources to be spent on the tests could have been used to give people with Down syndrome (and people with special needs in general) an easier life. More jobs, more sports teams, more resources at school and kindergarten. So I think those who find it difficult to have children with such needs would have become much, much easier.

So Ap, Frp and SV. Do not take lightly what you are doing now. Talk to the experts (i.e. parents of children with additional needs), bring in some systems that ensure parents like us receive good information, a home visit, and good opportunities to make the right choice for themselves and their families: tips not based on fear and old prejudice (which abounds).

People with Down syndrome live full lives. I know several of them, and I have a little girl, even at four months, who has the best right to live! And never, never, never would it have been her. Never.