– It’s hard – VG

The clock strikes 8:47 on Wednesday morning and Tuva Fellman (33) is spreading a slice of bread in the kitchen.

– Today is a very nice day, says Ronny Brede Aase (34) while pouring the last penny of coffee into his cup.

The couple, who have been lovers for more than seven years and got engaged last summer, recently went from being a family of two to becoming three.

– She’s absolutely gorgeous and a real raw paw, says Fellman.

On a white cot in the middle of the living room lies a little girl with a beauty in her mouth, and she stares in amazement across the room.

– We had a lot of fun, but it’s also quite exhausting, says Fellman.

– Yes, I think we should be honest about it. It’s difficult, says Brede Aase.

Perhaps one of the most difficult things is night trips.

– I am very happy to have spent 10 years on the morning radio and to have had an average sleep pattern of five hours a night, says Brede Aase.

He says that the new life is epic, but at the same time quite chaotic. Fellman agrees.

“It’s incredibly fascinating, and I was amazed at how wild it is to have children,” she says.

And although most of the time it is super cozy, it does not hide that it causes you concerns.

– I worry that something is wrong or that I may be doing something wrong. That’s when it’s so nice to be in a relationship with Ronny. His attitude towards life benefits me enormously.

And that is precisely Ronny’s attitude to life, which is the subject of his new book.

In addition to having recently debuted as a father, Brede Aase is now making his author debut with the book “Close Your Eyes and Think About Tacos.”

– I experience that we live in a time when we limit ourselves and constantly talk about everything we would like to do.

He says a lot of people live to do everything that’s fun in the last two days at the end of the week, while everything else should be a must.

– You have around 20,000 working days and 8,000 weekends during your life, and it’s silly to decide that all 20,000 must be stubborn.

Therefore, the book is based on how to have a weekend feeling, all week.

Worried a lot

In the book, Brede Aase addresses many of life’s concerns with a humorous approach. But the book is also a reflection of his own life.

Because it doesn’t hide the fact that you’ve spent a lot of time worrying:

– Everything from the banal like my extreme fear of Asian food to the fact that I was afraid of never finding true love, he says.

But you never cared today?

– Yes, of course. You look to the future and you don’t know what it brings, but my point is that you have to breathe with your stomach and not worry too much. Because it will work and it will be nice, he says and adds:

– I found Asian food and love, and I love it.

Brede Aase says the nervousness about taking on the role of father was very present.

– It’s scary to suddenly be responsible for a whole human life. There is no user template and that is the definition of “Learning by doing”.

And they still have a lot to learn.

– Nobody said that children defecate so much. That it was so much and so often completely put me off, he laughs.

– sort of funny

Brede Aase finds everyday happiness sipping a chilled Pepsi Max, having a beer on Tuesdays with a group of friends, or standing for long hours in the kitchen to make the perfect pasta Bolognese.

– I’ve always hated cooking a lot, but now I can stand for many hours in the kitchen instead of just eating grandis and Fjordland.

Fellman says his girlfriend hasn’t always been a cooking teacher.

– But NOW is incredibly good. That bolognese is really good.

In the book, Brede Aase writes about her own life experiences, tips for feeling good in everyday life, and a series of recipes for her favorite dishes.

– It’s a bit comical. Ronny, 20, had laughed at the idea that Ronny, 34, would publish a recipe book, he says.

However, with a newborn in the home, food does not always come first.

– We drive a lot on Foodora and so on now, and it’s really a bit digg. Think that having children is an excuse to do it.

And while life is a bit upside down right now, it will become part of everyday life, too, he says.

– I am also very happy to understand even more that it is so right to have children with Tuva. It’s a lovely feeling.

– Think of a crisis

The girl in the crib has lost her beauty and begins to make noise. Fellman picks her up, sits down on the couch, and calms her down.

Brede Aase believes that she does a formidable job as a mother.

– It’s completely raw. She has so much power, commitment and love in her.

He himself feels good hanging around the house and rocking the child to sleep.

When asked how it feels to be a parent in the midst of a corona pandemic, you return to the same basic principle as in the weekend theory:

– It sucks to feel like we’re on our way to phase two, but maybe it’s more important to find little things to enjoy.

And besides small fortunes like opening a bag of chips or watching a good movie, he also believes in long-term happiness.

– The day Tuva feels ready for it, I will have a very nice bottle of red wine that we will share. I’m really looking forward to that.

After a while, Brede Aase takes her daughter from Fellman and wanders through the house they have lived in since shortly after the New Year.

Next Saturday, the girl will be one month old.

– It’s a bit uncertain how, but of course we will celebrate it, he says.

He is looking forward to exploring the role of father as his daughter grows up too.

Not least, you are eager to cook it properly:

– We joked that if she doesn’t like Bolognese, then we have to throw it into the forest, she laughs and adds:

– Imagine a crisis if we have a child who does not like Bolognese.

Do you remember this? Ronny Brede Aase, Markus Neby and Silje Nordnes have been at P3morgen for 10 years.