Tolls for kindergarten teachers did not infuriate other parents: envelopes of 300 euros each

In discussions on various Facebook groups, its members openly shared what they intended to give their children’s educators on the occasion of saying goodbye to kindergarten. Mothers who participated in the discussion revealed that this year’s kindergarten graduation party will cost families from € 20 to € 100, and gifts for educators will range from flowers and token trinkets to large amounts in envelopes.

Comparing such different amounts, one netizen called it the simplest vanity fair and was annoyed that it was nothing more than a scandal in the middle of the day, so it would be better for those who want to thank more abundantly maybe they don’t have that option. . According to them, it is not necessary to thank educators with material gifts, a good and sincere word would suffice.

Others positively evaluated the high fees; According to them, everyone knows that teachers’ salaries are too low, so such thanks are justified financial support.

“I am only for token gifts. If someone feels indebted to something (maybe accepted exclusively, maybe after receiving some additional services), let him pay in person and not with the money of the common group,” wrote one mother.

“It just came to our knowledge then [dovanoti] many gifts: bouquets for the director, music teachers, deputies, etc. I expect another total amount. In my opinion, this is too good. The directors are not in my sight personally. At least he knows the names of the children, from whom he receives flowers, ”asked another ironically.

“It is a tradition in our kindergarten to leave a gift from the group to the kindergarten. We decided to take a swing. We will deliver flowers to the educators and a clay cup with the children’s names. Everything will cost 20 euros for each child ”, said the mother of the kindergarten to the least amount in the discussion.

“I have two children (a preschooler) – 30 Eur for both of them. For educators [dovanas] I understand it, but for the first time I hear this from the employees ”, revealed another member of the group.

However, a different opinion emerged here: “[Tai, kad kai kurie dovanos dovanas ne tik auklėtojoms, bet ir darželiui bei kitiems darbuotojams] it doesn’t surprise me at all. You will probably say that your job is like this, but for example, I am grateful to all the staff who contribute to my son’s education and more. Even for the aunts who are by the flowerpots, or a guy who rakes the leaves and waters the flowers. “

“After consulting with the kindergarten group, we decided to add 300 EUR envelopes to the gift for the three educators. We will also have a beautiful celebration with entertainers. After all, you want good memories from kindergarten! We threw 100 euros off a child, ”said the mother of twins from a kindergarten in Kaunas.

“Well here in Lithuania there is still such unconscious organized crime and the desire to cover all the holes with bribes, gifts and all kinds of nonsense. The fee for kindergartens from kindergarten is 100 euros – wow! I consider a gift to be a general nursery gift, such as an inventory or toys that will stay, or a postcard drawn by the child or some kind of work for the babysitter. Are the parents already completely dizzy? Is there such a desire to show that we prefer to give the last money, but take vacations? ”wrote another mother who lives in emigration.

Other mothers agreed, also revealing the other side of such fees: “If you refuse to give money saying it is too much, [kiti] parents are angry and no longer communicate. Perhaps you shouldn’t make such charges at all so that other parents don’t reject you and slander you later? And the educator will tell the new children: notas funny as me, the parents of last year’s kids threw me in the envelope. The most important thing for me is that the person who visited me remembered me not to bring as much gift or envelope as possible ”.

It becomes a vicious cycle

According to psychologist Rasa Aukštinaitytė, parents donate money without wanting to be left behind and look worse. In this way, they become a circle and each year they build a growing billboard for themselves.

“In my observation, it has come from a long time ago: the desire to give thanks for the money. If this is not the case in other countries, I cannot say. Why do we do that? From the so-called herd feeling. If someone did something “We will do it. If we did that with the first child, we will do it now,” he commented on the situation.

The psychologist recalled some stories he heard when, in such cases, parents even had to borrow money. “I know from professional experience that there are parents who even borrow money to contribute a large number of educators. There are such things. Because if you don’t give money, there won’t be your signature on that list, but what will it look like? – R. Aukštinaitytė spoke. – But imagine, maybe someone has no money or a child finishes kindergarten that year, and another – twelve classes, there is another time – and parents have to give money. In such cases, they cannot give little or nothing, because it will affect the child, his self-esteem. As with clothes or other things when you don’t want to get out of context. Then parents are forced to adapt, to make an effort. And a vicious cycle arises. We give because everyone gives, although perhaps we do not have the conditions at that time and we contribute from the last, and that circle is turning ”.

In this situation, the psychologist also pays attention to the other side of the coin: expensive gifts are not always a pleasant surprise. “I remember that one of my patients was an educator and he told me that he was very uncomfortable with these gifts. For example, on one occasion, you received a check for shopping at a luxury store. In the first place, she did not need those goods, she would have preferred to use that amount elsewhere. And another thing: he said he would have liked to get tickets to the theater, the museum or the ballet. And a book would have been a better gift. When teachers start handing out checks at clothing or cosmetic stores, the limits are already being exceeded. The checks are more personal things and since they are given to educators, the gift must be related to professional things, ”said R. Aukštinaitytė.