The man, blinded by jealousy, took revenge: he wanted the whole family to know the truth

“He threatened to publish a record for the whole family: let everyone see who I am,” the woman, who had been persecuted by her ex-spouse for years, told police.

The young woman who lived in a city near Kaunas had a really difficult part: after the divorce, she was raising minor children alone, and once she believed in her ex-boyfriend’s sweet promises, she went back to living together. But not for long, the man beat her twice a day.

“Although the ex-husband does not intimidate me, in my opinion, what he is doing is blackmail, he wants to take revenge on me for breaking up with him and supposedly betraying him with another man. As a married man, “said the victim’s wife, her ex-spouse’s goal was to blackmail her in front of the whole family.

Ernest B., who has pursued his ex-spouse for over a year, has been indicted, a man who has been convicted twice before, this time inconveniently for illegally collecting and divulging information about the ex-spouse’s life.

During the pre-trial investigation, police officers discovered that Ernest B. had been illegally collecting information about his ex-spouse, a man who visited his children who lived here for about half a year, installed video and audio equipment without the knowledge and permission of the former spouse, and then used with the eavesdropping application, recorded the conversation between the woman and the man who came to their guests while filming on another mobile phone.

“He used this illegally obtained information to hurt and get revenge on his ex-spouse without his consent,” authorities said, according to authorities, the man later sent to his sister in a Facebook chat.

“From the record I received from my brother, it was heard that the woman was communicating with a man she did not know, he was consoled that she did not like being with Ernest,” said the responsible’s sister.

According to her, her brother-in-law had repeatedly hinted to her that Ernest B. would not leave her alone, even though they divorced a few years ago.

“She also said that it seemed to her that my brother was looking at her and listening to her everywhere, but she never mentioned specific cases or situations,” the witness said.

When a woman from a secret sect found out, she immediately went to the police for help. During the interview, she said that she divorced her children’s father in 2016, but “reunited” two years later, renting an apartment together.

“But as of 2019. I was no longer living with him in January, the victim said. “And since then, messages have been sent to my mobile phone asking me to verify my identity, because my Facebook account, as well as my email, etc., have been linked.”

Realizing that it was an attempt to hack into her personal data, the woman repeatedly changed her login details and, after a while, recalled a conversation with her ex-spouse, once he had sent her a phone conversation secretly recorded; During it, a woman spoke with a man, to whom she hinted that she missed him, hoping that he would soon be able to live better.

“Ernest B. had also sent this interview to his sister, and threatened to make the recording available to the whole family, that everyone knows who I am,” the woman did not hide during the interview that she had once found a listening team in home and her ex-husband admitted that the technique belonged to him.

“He had installed a ‘bug’ in my apartment, confessed it to me, then showed it and dismantled it,” said the woman.

The woman, who asked the police for help, had no doubt that the ex-husband was connecting to her online accounts; The woman, who had complained to Ernest B. about the unlawful harassment, hoped that law enforcement intervention would finally end her nightmare.

Ernest B., who was questioned by the police, did not even try to deny that he was interested in the personal life of the ex-spouse: the man fully admitted his guilt.

“Yes, I had secretly installed a listening device in our rented apartment; no special effort was needed, because I connected it to the TV decoder,” said the man. – The data received by the listening device could only be heard, the sound was recorded on a memory card or directly on the listening device. She always acted until her ex-spouse dissolved her. “

However, the jealous man did not stop his “activity”: he downloaded an application on his mobile phone, which he secretly recorded on the woman’s phone.

“And then I downloaded the app to my phone, connected it to my ex-wife’s phone, and I was able to listen to her phone conversations with other people,” he said.

The man did not want to explain why he did it, but admitted that he was very interested in the conversation of the ex-spouse with a man, so he sent him to listen to his sister.

“I understand that I secretly collected data on my ex-wife’s private life, I understand that I violated her private life, I understand that I used this information to send a recorded conversation to another person,” the culprit asked him not to be severely punished for this “stupidity “.

Judge Laima Šablevičienė, who examined the criminal case, decided to impose a fine of 34 MGL (1,700 euros) on Ernest B., which he must pay to the state budget. In addition, the court confiscated the wiretapping equipment found during the search from the man, as well as a cell phone on which the man was secretly listening in on recorded conversations.

This was the second case against Ernest B. before the same judge, who had previously convicted her husband of using physical violence against his ex-spouse. The court later found that while celebrating her birthday in a house, the man strangled the woman and, a few hours later, broke her in her home, grabbed her through the kitchen, and then pushed her as the woman fell to the floor and pressed her against the radiator. It is unclear how these events would have ended were it not for the victim’s sister, who ran to the rescue after summoning the police officers.

And then Ernest B., who was brought to justice, pleaded guilty and made no secret of the fact that he had used violence before drinking alcohol before, which led to the dissolution of his marriage. True, the man did not hide the fact that after the divorce, however, the former spouse was persuaded to give him another chance. She believed in his sweet promises, but he didn’t keep his word.

“They were very angry because Ernest B. is very jealous,” the victim’s sister did not hide.

According to her, after having fun at the rural tourism farm where Ernest B. celebrated his birthday, the sister was very sad and worried, it was seen that something had happened to her.

“And then she called and asked to come. I went with my sister, but we were not allowed into the apartment. We heard a noise, we could not speak to her sister, we called her, but the conversation stopped,” said the witness. – Then we called the police – when they arrived, the sister had already opened the door, which had been blocked by Ernest B. And only then did we find out that she was strangling my sister on the night of her birthday, and before we arrived she He was pulling his hair, he did not allow himself to get up. And it really wasn’t the first time that he was violent towards my sister. “

Police also told the victim.

“I’m afraid of him, Ernest is drunk, he constantly spies on me, checks the transcripts of my phone conversations and humiliates me in front of the children,” he admitted.

“Hitting, humiliating, intimidating, accusing, trying to control, manipulating another person is a typical behavior of the abuser,” Judge L. Šablevičienė noted not only the data of the criminal case, but also the conclusions of the psychologists. – The abuser uses physical and psychological violence because only by humiliating and controlling others can he feel valuable, powerful or strong. However, this is a misleading perception because the perpetrator is a person with a psychological problem. It is possible that the abuser saw such a pattern of behavior in their parents’ families or that they themselves were victims of violence. Because the perpetrator tends to be violent towards those weaker than him, he feels ashamed, he feels inferior, but he knows no way out, and when trying to justify himself in some way, he continues to act illegally ”.

According to the judge, because the self-esteem of the perpetrators is low, the evaluation, recognition and good image of other people are usually very important to them, so people who are violent in the immediate environment want to appear impeccable in the society.

“Also, the perpetrator generally presents himself as a victim, so by manipulating to cover up for good purposes, the perpetrator makes the perpetrator feel responsible and guilty for what is happening,” the judge said. – However, the abuser must realize that violence against another person will not make him feel strong or whole, because the victims of violence will despise and hate him. With the help of violence, the abuser will not be able to solve the problem of his inferiority. The abuser needs help. Disclosure of the problem and punishment is also helpful to the abuser. For a long time, the victim, living with the abuser, feels powerless to change something, is unjustly guilty of everything that happens in the family, so the first and only way out for the victim is to turn to the police because the abuser is afraid of publicity, otherwise there is no way to stop the abuser. . “

According to the judge, Ernest B. must realize that an abusive person can change his behavior, but only by acknowledging that he has a problem and seeking professional help.

“A victim of violence is not obliged to blame the perpetrator or provoke the perpetrator, since the problem does not belong to the victim but to the accused, so that the accused, who is the father of two children, deliberately tries to solve his case. Problems. psychological, the court imposes on the defendant a criminal sanction: the obligation to participate in violent behavior change programs, ”the judge instructed Ernest B. to participate in the four-month violent behavior change programs.