Jūratė Norvaišienė openly about life’s most important lessons and the secret of a long-term marriage: sometimes you have to close your eyes to certain things

– Do you find things that you can enjoy today?

– Of course yes. So far, friends are not sick, hello, of course, we are very sad for Peter Bingel, we have been working together for many years. I am so sorry for this man. His death was a great blow to us. This is the only pessimistic event.

– How do you say hello to the holidays?

– The holidays flew by. It seems to me that even young people feel that the pace is increasing, no matter how quarantined and we work a lot remotely, days are not enough. I have to work late into the night and read a lot of literature. We, as doctors, follow the news about COVID-19 and other diseases. Science brings many new things every day. It feels like a new era has arrived, it’s insanely fun, but telecommuting and the inability to interact with people are doing the bear a disservice. People are being alienated, which is not good. Everyone gets paid when they interact with others, especially people with positive energy. It will not download remotely, we need our biofields to communicate. It is true that pets can help here. It has even been scientifically proven that people who have pets at home are less likely to get sick, and if they do get sick, they get sick more easily. They feel better psychologically. So I would advise everyone, especially singles, to take a pet so they have something to take care of.

– The natural desire of the human being to take care of another person has not disappeared and is vital, right?

– Yes. It is a necessary part of our existence.

– You still work, you teach dance, right?

– We train until quarantine. Now it is unlikely that we will open after the New Year. See how people behave, don’t believe there is a virus at all until your neighbor or loved one gets sick. The quarantine can last even longer. For high dominance couples this is not good, they lose their shape.

– Are you still dancing for pleasure?

– No. For our enjoyment, we watch television to laugh. Laughter ventilates the lungs very well, and one of the main attacking organs of the coronavirus are the lungs. Your ventilation is now inadequate. A person who stays at home does not actively exercise, does not walk, his lungs do not work, however, God forbid, he gains weight, fat presses on the diaphragm, the diaphragm presses on the lower part of the lungs and everything it can get complicated very easily. Laughter is in the mood and protects against depression, and black thoughts are distracting. You need to laugh so much that even your belly connects. Also, active movement, running, walking are necessary. There are special exercises for lung ventilation. Inhale, count to four, hold your breath, count to four, and exhale, count to four. Another exercise is to stretch your arms out to the sides, inhale, exhale, and suddenly hug.

– You exercise?

– Yes. Before quarantine, I walked to the pool, Česlovas, to the gym. Now we play sports at home. We have a stationary bike. Make sure you exercise. Man was created to move, he was given legs to use. And what is not used, begins to atrophy little by little.

– Apparently, and the fact that you dance all your life gave your own?

– Of course. Our lifestyle is very active, we like it a lot and we love to communicate.

– You teach young people to dance. What kind of youth are there in Lithuania today? Don’t you lack power?

– For those who want a sporting result, the illusion is not lacking. I am very sorry for them because these pandemic challenges are a huge psychological blow to them.

– What qualities does a dancer need in general?

– Above all, mindfulness, diligence, a bit of physical roles, musicality is very important. Music should be heard and felt with the heart. Unfortunately, in the 21st century, it becomes primitive. When we danced, there was special music for each dance, created by special orchestras. And now young people take any song and dance. The music does not quite match the character of the dance. As our grandchildren grow up, what do they listen to? No Lithuanian. What good will they create? A citizen without a country, without a language, around English alone, who has few voices, is vocal. It would be at least Italian. This is our great reproach to the Lithuanian radio

– In dance, as in life, a very important partner. It seems you have chosen the correct one. Perhaps it will reveal where the secret of a successful marriage is?

– We discovered each other first in life and only then did we start dancing together. We went dancing for general education. And for the mystery … when people are empathetic, indifferent to each other, when they look at each other not as a property, but as a personality, when they help each other, they seem a friend, all problems are solved. After all, we come together as a family to travel together, have children, and help each other on that journey. We need to be attentive to each other. Then love will not disappear, it will only increase.

– Others say that over time, love disappears …

– Silly stuff. If you respect the other person, do not restrict their freedom, their needs, you are tolerant, there are no such problems.

– Today there is more and more talk of equal rights for women and men, etc., how did you and your husband share all the household chores?

– We share. Although there are no male or female jobs in our homes. According to the stereotype, a woman should be in the kitchen and a man should bring the fish home. Česlovas cooks so deliciously, he’s so talented that I never had to cook. I appreciate lunch and dinner.

– Don’t you have a rule in a man’s heart through the stomach?

– No. It’s through his stomach, into my heart.

– A ballroom dancer is a symbol of femininity. What is femininity for you?

– If we rely on stereotypes, a woman is weaker, she always waits for help from a man, but the days when a man hunted or set fire to a bonfire are long gone. No more male or female jobs. But I think that a woman should be able to emphasize her good qualities and hide the bad ones. Both external and internal. The exterior may even be in second place. At first you know a person by their appearance, but just say a couple of sentences and you see what a person is like.

– What would be the most important lesson of your life that you would like to pass on to the younger generation?

– I like the current tradition of young people that they are not in a hurry to get married. That’s very true. They live together, they know each other in everyday life, because this is where conflicts occur, they know the sexual character of the other. I think it’s very good. Don’t buy a cat in a bag.

– Didn’t you have this tradition?

– We didn’t, but we didn’t ask. Our wedding was so studentlike that after that Česlovas from Šiauliai spent the night in a medical dormitory. But what is more important to note is that young people do not have an absolute life. When two people meet, they feel a very high anxiety, they are dazzled by love, everything is very beautiful. But they equate a sexual act with love, which are two different things. Life is not easy, sometimes you have to close your eyes to many things. Our lives have been difficult. We saw a lot of everything, television appeared in our eyes, flights into space, the order changed …

– For you, this period and the pandemic, compared to other challenges, may not seem so terrible?

– It’s not scary, but when people close to you start to die … We still want to see what will happen in the future, how people will fly to the Moon and Mars.