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Soyoung kim
2021.01.09 06:00
The meaning of ‘friend’ who reported the pandemic
“Master, can you see what I’m wearing?”
In Zoom’s class last week, Hyun Joon asked from behind the laptop screen. Hyun-jun wore a short-sleeved shirt even in the middle of winter.
“This is our half tea. Originally it was used during sports competitions and experiential learning, but this year I couldn’t even go to school. I was so disappointed that I wore it today. “
Should I show my reading teacher half a tea? Although apart, only that heart touched me desperately.
Hyun Joon loves his friend very much. Most of the everyday stories you tell me are about your friends. Having played soccer with a friend, having seen a movie on someone’s birthday, having friends at home to sleep in, having fought with friends, having fought, etc. Hyun Joon said that the most anticipated thing about starting 4th grade last year is meeting new friends. Even when the opening of the school itself was delayed due to Corona 19, and even when it became necessary to follow strict quarantine rules for school classes, Hyun Joon was a bit excited.
“But I’m glad to meet my friends, and it’s my first time wearing a mask together, so I’m a little curious what it will look like.”
As a result, Hyun Joon’s fourth-grader passed without having to play games or meet up with his friends sometimes. When Hyun Joon enters fifth grade, the most desired thing is to go to the pool with friends in the summer. Even Yoona, who is stubborn in making friends, and Jena, who was worried about a problem with a friend, wish for the new year to play with friends as much as possible after Corona 19 ends.
‘Apart from each other, only hearts are together’
Contrary to what I was confident, it wasn’t easy
Adults who are familiar with human relationships are like this …
Friends are more desperate to have children
It is quite difficult even for adults not to be able to meet the friends they want to see in this long era of the crown. Despite the pleasant demands of the quarantine authorities, we can find out by looking at the news and social networks that adults who hold meetings at the end of the year and New Years usually see. That doesn’t mean they make sense.
Of course, if you are an adult who has grown tired of your usual relationships, this situation can be pleasant. You must have taken a reasonable distance with the relationship that was onerous and fixed the priority of the really precious relationship. To be honest, I was on the same side too. “Let’s meet when things get better” became an appropriate greeting when an unwilling meeting is delayed. Even in such a situation, I thought that the friend I wanted to meet would be a true friend, and I was confident that I could bear it without finding me because that friend is the people I must protect. It was in my head.
One day a friend of mine found out how poor my conviction was. My friend called me on the way home from work and gave me a bottle of peaches and a cookie. It was a gift to me that I was depressed after closing the reading class according to the quarantine guidelines. When I read a note from my friend that said, ‘Let’s eat candy and be strong,’ I cried out loud. I realized how difficult it is to be separated from each other and to be with my heart only after meeting my friend’s face for less than 5 minutes. In the meantime, we exchanged text messages, made phone calls, and to some extent we watched each other’s daily life on social media, but it was incomparable to seeing faces. I thought that now I knew a certain degree about human relations, but I also thought that the day to learn like this is coming, and I have to continue learning in the future.
Friends are more desperate to have children. But some adults seem to take this problem lightly. For a child, a friend may be simply because he thinks that a friend is “a being who meets and plays.” So it doesn’t seem like it’s urgent, compared to the problem of learning interruption or increased smartphone usage time. You can play with your family instead of your friends, watch TV or play games, so why not worry about not meeting your friends? Adults know from experience. That childhood friends don’t necessarily lead to friends for life. So you’re not taking children’s friendships seriously?
Instead of playing together
Sharing everyday life like school
Based on similar experiences and knowledge
Because we share feelings and thoughts
For children, a friend is not just a “play object.” For children, a friend is a person with similar experience and skill level, a person who shares important routines such as school life, and a person with a similar social position. Friends know similar things and they don’t know similar things. There are also moments and jokes that only they know. Therefore, you can share with your friends a variety of feelings and thoughts that cannot be fully shared with your parents or siblings. That is why children want to play with ‘friends’.
Some children have a place to breathe outside the home thanks to their friends. The home is an almost absolute condition for children, but the home is not an ideal environment for all children. When a child goes out with a friend, they may briefly forget about family matters, find comfort, or have hope. How many friends will she need if a child feels heavy air in the house during this difficult time? For children, friends are a real component of life.
If not for a pandemic, how would a child accept that meetings with friends for so long were blocked? Under normal circumstances, such isolation would be more of a bee. Punishment for not following the rules, not listening to parents, fighting with friends, or causing trouble. It would be painful to be punished like this for a few days, even if I made a mistake, but I am concerned about the kind of stress that isolation for a year is putting on a child. Of course, children are aware of the social crisis, but it seems difficult to cope.
A long time ago, when a child in a reading class was worried about a friend for a long time, he was upset when his parents told him, “Don’t worry too much, because when you graduate, you will not see him again.” From a child’s point of view, graduation was much later and the problem was that I had to meet my friends tomorrow. I can’t make friends right now, but it was natural for me to worry about how to find best friends when I became a high school student and an adult.
But I also understood why the boy’s parents said, “The friend I know as an adult is a best friend.” There are times when I think that way too. When you were a child, your school, class, neighborhood, etc., coincide with each other. If you have a friend that you like, there are times when you have to be tied up with a child that you don’t like, under the name of ‘friend’. In many cases, I had a hard time building a network, but when a new school year rolled around, I had to start from scratch. Perhaps the child’s desire to be in the same class as ○○ next year stemmed from a desire to ease the stress of making new friends.
Things change after you become an adult. You can find out who you are going to be friends with and you will get some tips on how to maintain a correct relationship. The people I call ‘friends’ are people who have become friends because they are of different ages and different places where they live, but have similar interests and life goals. We met while reading, studying, writing or playing together, and naturally we became friends and I wanted to be friends. Sometimes I end up distant from some of my friends, but at least things don’t go in vain, like changing grades or classes.
In the past, remembering that fact, I thought it was a waste of time when I was so anxious about friendships. Then it dawned on me as I was looking for something to say to the boy who asked, “Do your friends really don’t want to say anything in elementary school?” If I hadn’t had that moment as a child, what kind of an adult would I have become if I hadn’t had the experience of being upset, happy, disappointed, moved, slowly forgotten, and remembered by a friend? Could I have met my current friends? It can be said that today’s friends made them friends when they were young.
And there are unforgettable childhood friends. I transferred schools when I was in the third grade of elementary school. I took a taxi with my mom after school on my last day at school and I don’t know how much I cried on it. It was because I was sad to break up with H, my friend whom I loved so much. My friend who had curly hair and an orange sweater did really well. I also raised my hand and vowed to see what fit so well with H, which was a first grade class, so that I would never be separated in a corner of the playground. It seemed to me that it broke my heart that he was breaking that promise. Even though I managed to adjust to the school I moved to and made new friends, I used to vaguely think that it was possible to break up with my friends. At that point, even if he was a year or two older, he would have written H’s address and written a letter. It’s a shame to think now that there was no such trick when I was a kid. Being able to give and receive gifts on the way home from work is something you can do because you are an adult.
Siyeon is a good friend of the local. Although the school is the same, it is difficult to find each other because they are far from each other. So, he said, ‘One minute and one second is a waste of time’ to meet at school. There are a number of comics that we both like in common, so we bought different versions and tried to change them. However, due to the limit on the number of attendees, school days were free. The two of them switched while placing comics in each other’s place.
“I’m talking about the local leaving it. So when I go to school, I really have it. It’s fun too. “
He didn’t know whether to say good or sorry to Siyeon, who said ‘that’s funny too’.
The life of children is already in a distance of three levels. It would be nice if Corona 19 ended as soon as the kids wish for the New Year, but even before that, I’d like the kids to meet their friends. First I want to open the school. I would like to support the school so that it can be done. It seems like it’s been a winter break the entire time since this time last year. I would like to see children gathering with friends on bikes, children yelling at distant friends, and children opening purses in front of convenience stores to save money with friends. That is my New Year’s wish.
Read, write, learn, and teach with children in reading class. As a non-caregiver, I am very interested in ‘children’, which cannot be explained only in the framework of care and education. We believe that a world that is good for children is a world that is good for adults. <어린이책 읽는 법> <말하기 독서법> <어린이라는 세계>Wrote.
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