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“Kardzhali’s bedroom”, “Betonovata mahala”, “The busiest neighborhood in the city near Arda”, “The neighborhood with the construction in bad condition” And as more and more blocks sprout, you can hear what they call ” Vazrozhdentsi “-” The neighborhood of expatriate wives. ” Women drive cars, raise children, take care of the home, while most of their husbands are abroad to ensure a higher standard of living for their relatives at home. Life in rhythm: remittances in euros, domestic headaches, tears reflected in the mirror of the powerful jeep left by her husband …
An “expat wife” day
“We met early, at 8 o’clock in the restaurant. Of course, before they closed because of the coronavirus. Now we have coffee on foot on the playground while the little ones play,” Semra M. told 24rodopi.com. , 24, whose husband is a builder in the Netherlands.
Married at 19, she is already caring for a second child. “We are the Group of Expat Wives. 7 women with the same luck: women of guest workers, some with one child, others with another. The waitress has not brought the coffees yet and we are already talking about Holland or Germany, the Bulgarian topics are in the background. Years ago, early in the morning, there were mostly men in the restaurant, but now it’s the other way around, “says Semra, adding:” There are many, many young women in Vazrozhdentsi who raise their own children. Children Some of their mothers came from the villages, others their mothers-in-law to take care of them, but there are also many who feel lonely.
Marriage, then abroad
The perfect age for marriage is now between 25 and 29, according to the average Kardzhali resident. For women in the region, the excellent age range is 20-29 years. This is shown by official data. 8 girls from the region were married before the age of 18. In the stronger sex there are no cases of “child spouses”. 44 Kardzhali women, ages 18 and 19, have signed a marriage certificate in the last year. There are only 7 children who started a family in adolescence, but usually young families are separated from it. But only physically. One of the partners travels abroad to earn enough for a house, a car, perhaps a second property. But sometimes there is a real separation. “Gurbet not only means more income for the family, as many people think. A separated family is one problem after another. Some also have a lot of tears.
A girl on our block is about to get divorced. She found out that her husband had a new love in Germany. She is not a local girl, but an expat. Ours is to wonder what to do here, alone and with a child. Her mother told her to last because she made her own decision, ”says Semra. According to her, however, it is clear: there will be another divorce!
Property division, but abroad
Modern Rhodopes no longer share property at home after divorce, but abroad. More and more families in the last 15 years have dissolved their marriages, most of which were celebrated at home, in cities or in the home village. One of the main reasons for this is gurbet. Even his property acquired during family life is in Western Europe.
“Young married couples are separated for economic reasons. There are cases of men taking care of children here and their wives working in Western Europe, cleaning, caring for the elderly. In most cases, however, the husband is abroad and the woman takes care of the home. The separation and the change of social status have repercussions, “say the divorce lawyers. Leading the number of divorce cases is the Momchilgrad District Court, and its primacy has been for years. Most “End of Marriage” clients live abroad. They said “yes” to each other in a Rhodope village, one of their children was born in Kardzhali, the other in Britain, and they returned home to officially separate. This is one of many stories from the region with an identical scenario. A young family got divorced only a few days ago, without mentioning the reason for the separation. The man and woman agreed in court that the ex-wife will follow living with the minor children in the family home, acquired in London. The parent takes care of the maintenance and can see the children in “free mode”.
According to lawyers, the practice of “dividing property” now affects real estate in the native village and abroad less and less. “Young families are leaving the region and settling in Western European countries. Logically, they invest their savings in housing in the country in which they settled. That is why even during divorce cases they regulate property ownership in abroad For a long time it has no longer been a curiosity to “marry in a village, divide in Berlin, Brussels or London”, say lawyers.
“The neighbor’s salvation is to reunite with her husband, here in Kardzhali or there in Germany. But the trust is gone. If the marriage survives, it will be because of the son,” says Semra. Statistics show that men in Kardzhali mostly divorce between the ages of 40 and 49, while women have divorced before the age of 20, two in the last year. Only 17 men between the ages of 20 and 29 have been divorced in the past year, while the number of women in this age group is 30.
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