That’s why you need a “friend of order”

You think of people who write bitter and sour posts, put down anonymous and moody notes, and make nasty little comments about everything that can be sneered at. “Friend of order” they are called a bit condescending.

But there is a great risk that the good guy has been missed, is it possible that you have barely noticed this group? It is colleagues, neighbors and acquaintances who carry out their tasks, often self-imposed, away from the center of attention and who rarely expect praise.

– These people are extremely important. They allow careless street vendors to be careless, says Louise Edberg, a legal psychologist and consultant who focuses on organizational problems in the workplace.

The man is programmed have order, says Louise Edberg. Chaos takes energy out of the brain.

Originally, our security order was necessary in order to escape from danger. We have long left the problems of the Paleolithic behind, but the importance of order remains, albeit in a different form.

– In a tenant-landlord association that I know of, there is a self-proclaimed garbage master. Among other things, it collects when people have placed boxes in the wrong place and sometimes puts information on how and where garbage should be deposited, says Louise Edberg.

When it is then the annual meeting, he receives criticism for putting “bitter notes.”

– Then there is usually an awkward atmosphere until someone on the board says with a bit of caution that it is good that someone still takes care of the mess in the garbage room. Some may find that those who maintain order in the association secure the value of each and every largest equity, the tenant’s property.

In a workplace It can be easy to see if there is a person who likes order, according to Louise Edberg. The cups and glasses are where they should be, there is no paper left on the conference table from previous meetings, no wilted flowers or depressions, and the Christmas tree lighting rises and falls over time.

– This is often handled by people who work with the basic service and this additional solution is not included in their job description, they do it anyway, in the background. In this way, they contribute to greater well-being in the workplace.

The tidy ones are usually women, Louise Edberg thinks, and the fact that the slightly condescending ones can be classified as “good girls” makes her look red.

– Take all these class mothers, which is often about. They take on an unpaid assignment and they may have to remind others and be a little harsh, but they do it because they want to contribute and make sure the class trip is over, says Louise Edberg.

Those who like order it often places a heavy burden on the life of the association, such as children’s leisure activities, says Anders Eka, Justice and Chief Justice. They are the people who stay and rub shoulders with the minutes and administration when others can go home from the meeting. There, some may have submitted proposals that have received great recognition, while those who will drive and realize the idea end up in the shadows.

In past workplaces, Anders Eka has seen examples of how colleagues have been used in an orderly manner. These can be reports and documents that have not been fully reviewed knowing that a coworker always takes that control.

– Therefore, those who have left the material have been able to sit down and take it a little more calmly, says Anders Eka.

After many years As a director, Louise Edberg is grateful for details that someone, on their own initiative, has arranged for a meeting or other welfare matters that are outside of that person’s paid work duties.

– My employees have told me that I am good at praising, but they have also drawn my attention to the fact that I can be easily criticized. I appreciate the request and can get feedback on my empty desk.

If Anders Eka described himself, he would not choose “neat”, even if it is:

– I could use “structured”, but it’s not really the same. Being a friend of order has a negative connotation, but the correct meaning of the expression, that you value order, is an advantage.

Janne Andersson, captain of the men’s national team, does not like the mess. He has been seen picking up trash in the locker room after big games. When the national team trained before the match against Spain in the June 2019 European Championship qualifiers, it was shown on the screens in the press room, even though training would be closed. This was disapproved of by the captain of the national team, Janne Andersson, who explained that she is a friend of order and wants the rules to be followed.

– Yes, I think it is important to have order, but I don’t want to look like a footprint or a good brother. For me, order is about clarity and reliability in my leadership. Having order and order is also showing respect for others, like being on time and not letting others wait, says Janne Andersson.

The structure has an important purpose. The national team must know what applies and must be followed until something else is decided. This means that it is not necessary to put power into the controls. The scheme provides a basic security that allows players to be creative and take initiative.

Judge Anders Eka also links order with respect for others.

– In my work you have to be orderly and careful. We are the highest authority and our work has a great impact on people’s lives, to be ordained is to respect this. The order is to think through the facts correctly before making a decision, not just to take it easy, says Anders Eka.

For many years Linda Skugge, outwardly, kept a low profile on her need for order and order. As a freelance writer, it was best to be a nice, laid-back guy. With his book “Right People”, which was published in 2019, he wanted to give a neat repair and highlight the benefits of moving. With the pandemic, these types of people have now gotten some revenge, think:

– I’ve always been careful to wash my hands. I have never left sick children in preschool, it has felt obvious. It’s as if others only now understand that this is the way to do it.

She also feels more appreciative professionally. The financial pressure on freelance writers has increased even more and being a “nice guy” is not that easy.

– There is no time or place for careless people. The reliable and upright go home in bad times and in the long run.

However, he still watches people who pride themselves on being bohemian and careless, but he thinks it’s mostly an attitude. On the other hand, those who have obvious trouble keeping life in order and life seem ashamed of it. At the same time, Linda Skugge often sees the tidy try to hide this in order to look cooler.

In the supreme court Strict adherence to the rules is a prerequisite for important tasks to be performed correctly. Should those who want to work in the heaviest legal entity in the country emphasize the sense of order in their application?

The answer to the question is probably no. Neat or similar descriptions are not adjectives used in recruitment contexts, according to Anders Eka. One word that often appears in such contexts is “take responsibility.”

Anders Eka believes that the neat guy held a higher place in society a few decades ago. Perhaps because the concept of order has been increasingly associated with someone superficially correcting things that went wrong.

– For me and in my industry, order is high on the agenda and continues to be an appreciated quality in society, says Anders Eka and adds:

– I think.

Sometimes they track correctly says psychologist Louise Edberg. They are people who almost seem to like to complain and thus spread bad energy in the workplace or in their environment. Louise Edberg emphasizes that the problem with these people is not their desire for order, but their personality.

Janne Andersson would not use the above description on himself, but he is neat even in private and believes that previously he could manifest too much.

– When I was younger, I tried a bit and sometimes went too far, but now that I’ve gotten older, the details are not so important anymore. I don’t have to mow at home as often as when I was young, the grass no longer has to be a certain height.

Linda Skugge’s daily routine involves checking everything on her must-have list first, then doing things for her own enjoyment. It’s a trait that others may find boring, but she prides herself on being “upset.”

– But now that I’ve gotten older, I’ve gotten better at accepting that people are different. I have come to realize that someone who is careless with certain things can be trusted in another way.