My wife thinks she gets half of my hobby earnings

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I retired five years ago. I have enough savings and an excellent pension for us to live comfortably.

I took over a hobby three years ago that generates about $ 5,000 in annual income, which I put in a separate bank account. My wife asked, “What are you saving that money for?” I said maybe a classic car, helped at a family reunion (by my side), etc. She replied, “We should be on the same page about how it is spent, because half of it is mine.”

When I reached out to my son for his insight, he sided with her because (legally) half of what I have is hers. I have no problem consulting with her about a large expense coming from our other savings, but on this one I feel she is controlling and petty. Your thoughts?

HOBBY IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR HOBBY: I agree with you. Not only that, but she also lacks tact.

DEAR ABBY: My daughter just informed me that she will be hanging a heart head in her living room. Her live-in friend loves hunting, and she does this for him. Thinking about it for a moment makes me physically ill. My thoughts turn to a dying animal that is suffering.

My husband and I gave my daughter $ 12,000 to buy this house. I want them to reconsider their decision based on the fact that this is bothering me, not that I’re trying to support them because we gave them this money. I know she will take it personally and make me overwhelmed. Help!

UNEASY IN OREGON

BINNE UNEASY: I think we both know that your daughter is an adult and has the right to make that decision without worrying that her fella hobby will take care of you. We do not like or approve of it. Because what bothers you is the idea that the heart suffers, ask your daughter (if he) how many shots it took to take down the creature. If it was more than one, you could make them happier in your home.

DEAR ABBY: My wife left me a little over two years ago, and I can not seem to get it. All she said was that we had an ’emotional disconnect’. I do not believe she was unfaithful.

All I can think about is being with her, and I cringe when I think she’s with someone else. I’m a professional with a good career and retirement, and I’m approached by some nice women who want to date. How can I get over my feelings for my ex?

SINGLE IN THE PLAINS

DEAR LONELY: Have you been away and participating in free activities since your wife left? That would be one way to get your mind off of them, because it’s counterproductive to think about them.

Your ex must have been specific about why she left. Understanding would have helped you to truly heal.

Since it has been two years and you can not work this out, talk to a licensed psychotherapist.

Your doctor as your health insurance provider can give you the names of qualified professionals. Please do not wait.