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According to D. Ražauskas, if the couples will manage to maintain the relationship during the second quarantine, it can be answered in two ways: yes and no.
“Psychological research from different countries provides slightly different data, but most likely if we endured the quarantine together for the first time and did not separate, and some families in my practice even escalated, there is a very high probability that it will happen by second time.
Unfortunately, not necessarily and there are no guarantees. Sometimes the first quarantine has made some cracks or fissures, so the second can end the family or the couple, “said the relationship expert.
When asked if worse weather conditions than in the spring could also contribute to deteriorating relationships, he agreed.
“There can be and there is also scientific data showing that the amount of sun, heat, light can really affect it. For this reason, immediately most of the experts that it is necessary to do sports, it is necessary to be in nature with such frequency, clarity, security, with distances (…).
Move outdoors, exercise as much as possible, and communicate as much as possible. We cannot meet live, visit family, friends, but we must call as often as possible, use Messenger, Skype as often as we want to have someone to talk to and communicate with. “
According to him, if we communicate and talk as a couple, for many couples it will be too much, so they may exhaust each other.
“We also need external communication, which will not be alive at the moment. That means we have to use virtual tools.”
When asked how the restriction of movement between municipalities should be translated for couples living in different cities, D. Ražauskas commented that remote communication may not be enough for them.
“A lot of data shows that distance can separate a significant part of the pairs. It is not a verdict that if we now have to stay a week or two or a couple of months without meeting physically, it will ruin us.
However, Lithuania is a land of immigrants, we have many families, where one stays to work or take care of children in Lithuania, the other goes abroad to earn money. Certainly, there are clients who see every month or every three months due to the distance, which distinguishes the distance, the inability to be together all the time, and some rare families keep it. “
Darius Ražauskas
However, he added, Lithuania is not yet in a good demographic situation, so perhaps the government could have made an exception for such couples.
“The birth rate with us is decreasing, the number of new families is decreasing, in a word, we are a disappearing nation. Some exceptions can be made for couples who have been together for at least a long time. “
When asked by a relationship expert what to do with people who still feel lonely and might want to find a second half now, he said it’s a tough question.
“If we start getting to know each other now or go into new social bubbles, we can contribute to the spread of the virus. In fact, if it is possible and the person has been alone for a long time, it might be necessary to refrain from those new acquaintances for the next month. If we all get together, maybe that situation will improve sooner. But if nothing else is possible and one person wants to find the other half in the same municipality, now it will be much more difficult. “
According to D. Ražauskas, most of the traditional places and circumstances are currently disappearing, leaving only a virtual space.
“Once again, as statistics and research show, most of the time in cyberspace, those singles end up being so unstable. It’s not uncommon for those long-term couples to form virtual. What you’re going to do is that we’re probably in a position where you probably need to use those social media to meet new people.
What do the professionals advise? Look for like-minded groups. For example, if you like nature, sports or meditation, you are much more likely to have that relationship with someone with somewhat similar values and attitudes towards the world. “
In short, the expert wanted the couples in contact to greet each other more, to show more attention and tenderness. Also understand that for some people, when they are locked up and their freedom is restricted, this can lead to more stress.
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