Removed from kindergarten lists without notice: September 1 ended with tears in the children

Such a problem was also faced by a woman who did not want to release her name, who said she almost lost her place in kindergarten for not communicating with those responsible. She also cautioned that great care should be taken when choosing a private daycare, as they may not only be unaccountable to anyone, but also be unsafe for children. For its part, the Ministry of Education, Science and Sports (ŠMSM) explained why the woman’s son was removed from the nursery list.

“I want to share my experience of how we almost lost a place in kindergarten and draw the attention of parents to be careful entrusting their children to the care of private kindergartens,” said a woman who contacted Delfi and He did not want to reveal his name. She said the kindergarten her son attended was closed for two months due to summer vacation and parents had to turn their heads to who could leave the child in their care.

“In July, my husband and I took turns, but in August we had to find an alternative. We found a private kindergarten on the Internet, whose ad said that children are accepted for care during hours, days and weekends. We called the director online and told him that we needed a babysitting service for a month, August. The director of the private kindergarten spoke kindly and provided the phone number of the other person in charge of handling the documents. She said that she was only formally a director, and then the educators called that responsible person a director ”.

According to her, an agreement was reached very quickly and kindly with the specified person, and he also impressively described and promoted the kindergarten.

“Our agreement was that we pay the agreed price without state compensation, because the child is accepted only for one month and without registration in the system. In addition, it has been spoken with at least 3 times on the phone that we are not leaving and that the child cannot leave the previous kindergarten. The same person told us by phone what documents to send for acceptance by email, asking if the contract will be for that term, we heard the answer that there is only a general contract, but we agreed not to charge entry because it is only one month, etc. Orally, we signed a simple general nursery and education contract for an indefinite time, only from when ”.

I noticed the wrong things

The child went to this kindergarten, he continued, for nine days, because in the second week it turned out to the parents that bad things were happening there and that environment was not safe for the child. The woman said she usually picked up the boy between 3 and 4 p.m., but once, due to an accident and the resulting road blockage, she arrived a little later.

“When I arrived, the door was closed, so I thought everyone was in the yard. I called the phones listed on the board, but no one answered or called me. Then I called a man who the educators called a principal and he told me where everyone could be found. When I found them all, I approached the educator with both names, but she did not answer anything for me. This was the first time that I had serious doubts about the reliability of this kindergarten. “

Then, the woman said, she had another suspicion when educators said that only boys visited because girls don’t stay here.

“So our last day in this kindergarten was when my husband took my daughter out of kindergarten and the girl’s behavior turned out to be very strange to me that day. Since she was brought in early, around 4pm, and I was still ordering, it was only in the evening before going to bed that we were able to talk about how we were in kindergarten. He started telling me that “uncle” had come and he was scared, he started crying when I asked him why, he couldn’t explain, but it was terrible with him. “

When the woman asked her daughter what she was doing with that “uncle”, she replied that she was doing “kut kut”.

“I asked where the man was doing kut kut, the girl showed me the pads. Then, like her, the boy did something “kut kut”. That was it for me, I decided not to take the child to that kindergarten anymore. Of course, a man laughed at me for reacting so sensitively to the man who takes care of the children, but I told him that no matter how we turn, we will not go to this kindergarten. “

“Because we were visiting him temporarily, I wrote to him that we got sick and I thought that he would not put things off any longer because such accusations are serious business. So it all ended, I wrote that we were sick and would not return. “

September 1 – shocking news

According to the woman, her family did not suspect anything wrong, they continued to spend the rest of the summer days quietly and thought that they could successfully start the new year in the kindergarten assigned to them, but when they went there, a surprise awaited them. .

“Dressed on September 1, we go to our kindergarten and we received the unpleasant news that the child has been removed from the lists and our place is taken. Explaining that there was no request from the parents to terminate the contract, we received a response that no request from the parents is required, a letter from another institution stating that the child has been accepted is sufficient. We are raising a fourth child and for the first time we discovered that this can be done without the knowledge of the parents. When we started asking other known parents, we didn’t find any who would not have needed to terminate the contract and move to another kindergarten without a request. “

According to her, the boy immediately burst into tears because he really wanted to go back to kindergarten, but it soon became clear why such a misunderstanding may have occurred. It turns out that the kindergarten assigned to them is not directly subordinate to the municipality, but to the SMSM, so in this case, the request of the parents may not be necessary.

“I immediately called the director of the kindergarten that I visited that summer and he said they would press the button and accept the child again. But the clerk, who overheard him say on the phone, said what he was talking about here, if there wasn’t more space, another child had already been adopted. Of course, maybe my daughter helped in this situation too, because she really wanted to go back to kindergarten and started crying. The secretary then said that she still needed to call the director. The director said that if we signed the contract, then everything, no more space, she still made fun, asked for the number of the director of that private kindergarten, I said I would give that man, but she asked for the official number of the director “.

The woman remembered that she did not sit with her hands crossed, she turned to Vilnius and the Vilnius district. municipalities, and finally it was explained to him that the kindergarten did not belong to any of these municipalities. The whole situation brought women out of cancer a lot and she decided to make the misunderstanding public, although she did not want to publicly mention the names of the institutions.

“It just came to our attention then. It is also necessary to understand that people do not keep silent and cannot do so without warning. Yes, our son has returned to kindergarten, but we want to warn other parents to be careful when they may lose the a hard-won place in the desired kindergarten when looking for an alternative. “

He also added that care should be taken when choosing a private kindergarten, such as Vilnius district. the municipality explained to the woman that not many people supervise or inspect private kindergartens and often receive complaints about them.

Sorry for the misunderstanding

Representatives of SMSM commented that only a few kindergartens were directly subordinate to them, but they apologized that the family had experienced such inconveniences.

“We are very sorry that this misunderstanding occurred and that the family had to have such an unpleasant experience. We explained the situation, how it could have happened.”

According to the ministry, on August 3, the private kindergarten visited by the boy informed another kindergarten that the boy’s parents had been mentioned since July 28. signed a contract with his center and requests that the child be removed from the Student Registry.

“Upon receiving this notification, and in accordance with established practice, the administration considered that the parents had chosen another educational institution for the child and therefore withdrew it from the Student Registry.”

This institution, according to the ministry, violated the preschool education agreement with the parents by removing the child without the parents’ request and without informing about it.

“Although the parents also had to inform that they will only allow the child to go to another educational institution for a short time. By resolving this misunderstanding in good faith, the boy was admitted to a preschool education group.