Friends spoke of Povilas Dabužinskas, who died at home and became famous on Facebook: disturbing details and what shocked the most

Delphi To his knowledge, P. Dabužinskas was found dead in his own home on October 3. Paul’s last post on Facebook appeared on September 2.

It has been announced before that life did not spoil Paul: he grew up in an orphanage. Until he came of age, the man never had permanent guardians and was picked up by families over the weekend or summer. As an adult, Povilas even lived on the streets for a time. However, the man was able to stand up and become a general practice nurse. She worked with him both in the Palanga ambulance and while he was living in Germany.

A little later, Povilas became famous on the social network Facebook, where he delighted fans with live broadcasts. Due to this hobby, the Lithuanian Internet celebrity found herself both on TV shows and on news portals.

Unfortunately, the man, who cared about the health of others, soon encountered illnesses that prevented him from working or taking full care of himself.

Friend Povilas: He took everything he could from life

Povilas Vainutis, a native of Šiauliai, knew the famous name Povilas on the internet even before her popular hobby on social media.

“I have known Povilas for at least 10 years. I visited him as a guest in Palanga, and he visited me. In my apartment he has also done a live broadcast. We did not meet very often because we were separated by distance, but we really kept in touch, we were friends, “he said.

When asked if the disaster was unexpected, the interlocutor said that the news of the loss of a friend was very unpleasant for him, but it should not have been a surprise for Paul himself.

“I just realized that there should have been no surprises. Paul himself worked in medicine, he was a very smart man. However, he was reluctant to discuss his health problems with other people. As far as he knew, his illness was related to sepsis, I remember even the doctors wondering how, being in such a condition, he had already survived once.

He had health problems before and had a disability in the second group. I remember a time when Povilas also had problems with the cash register, so in addition to sepsis, he also had a large bunch of those health problems, he was in the hospital about a year ago.

His body was black. They used to say that they couldn’t wear their beloved rings because of their swollen fingers. Her body jumped a lot. But even in the most difficult moments, Povilas used to say that he was not really going to die yet, because he was only 39 years old, ”says the friend of the deceased.

“It is true that he may have looked at his health a bit through his fingers. From what he has been with me, he never refused to eat delicious food, avoid alcohol or smoke, even though he had problems with his pancreas. be different at the table from the other guests. He did not limit himself strictly, he enjoyed this day, “he added.

Recent posts by P. Dabužinskas on Facebook show alarming messages. The man publicly asked if someone could bring him food because he couldn’t do it due to poor health. However, his fellow friend assured that Povilas often felt lonely.

“Don’t get me wrong. He certainly wasn’t forgotten, he had a lot of friends, acquaintances, and interlocutors online that he not only interacted with, but also found help from them. Paul himself was with the character, I think, and the people who saw his Broadcasts saw him. He wasn’t letting anything in. Even if he had the impression that he was communicating freely with everyone, he was actually a bit different, it was more difficult to get close to him. He had character, he knew how to turn people away from him. ” Delphi assured.

Pablo considers that in this way he seemed to protect himself, since life had swept and thrown him since he was little.

“Recently, my friends from Šiauliai urged him to go to the hospital. He came to him in Panevėžys. But even then, he showed character, he did not want to go to the hospital, he said that no one would accept him because of the coronavirus. And at that time he was all swollen. I also told him that if he looked at it alone, the doctors would accept it urgently. He could not lift his hands or bend his fingers, it was difficult even to go to the bathroom. We urged him to see a doctor as soon as possible. But he still wanted to escape. He said that it would be better to buy a ticket to Druskininkai and rest there. Every day was a vacation for him and he understood it perfectly, “said P. Vainutis.

Recently, P. Dabužinskas lived in Panevėžys. The last time they saw friends was before the quarantine. And then it became difficult to find.

“It just came to our notice then. Paul was with the character. It seems like the closer you get to him, the further you get away from him because he was pushed. I know he hasn’t communicated with his adoptive parents lately.

He knew very well that he had serious health problems. Even when we met 10 years ago, he had them, but things weren’t as strong as last year. But he looked at it very easily. I don’t know, maybe I thought the worst would not happen, after all, with many of the sick who are successfully reaching old age and living. Even when he was sick, he lived the way he wanted.

He had a positive personality, perhaps somewhat self-centered. I think lonely people are often like that. You want that focus on yourself. He had that very pronounced feature. By the way, I have it myself, I see myself in the character of Paul. In the last days of his life, when no one had even suspected a disaster, he began to live with great joy. It wasn’t boring before, but lately this feature of hers has become even more pronounced. She loved jewelry, gold jewelry, shiny clothes.

He loved the attention, he really liked it, so he did live broadcasts. This has always been the case. When we first met, Facebook wasn’t even very popular with us, but even then he loved to attract stares to himself. For example, he loved interacting with celebrities from the country. I remember when Nelly Paltinienė was still alive, she handed her a huge bouquet of flowers bigger than she was, and the whole room applauded in admiration. She liked it. She loved the stars on stage very much. Once on stage with Inga Valinskiene, I don’t know how he did it, but it did. Povilas also contacted Vitalija and Monika Katunskytė. That presence with famous and deserving people made him feel encouraged. When you think about it, what is left? After all, he had no family, no parents, no children. What’s left? Just enjoy life and do what makes you happy, “said the interlocutor.

Although the news of his friend’s death shocked Povilas, he believes it shows a common problem in today’s society.

“It just came to our knowledge then. But do you know what that shows? It shows the problem of lonely people, which is very sensitive in the modern world. If you do not communicate closely with your relatives, you feel lonely; it is not clear when or who will find it and under what conditions The character of a lonely person also changes, as if people are even more distant from themselves.

It is true that he was not a completely closed person, he loved to communicate, to travel. Of course, when his health allowed it. He liked to travel with his car, he bought trips, he worked as a nurse, he was a living person. That foreclosure occurred when he could no longer physically leave his home. It was then that the problems of loneliness began. And before, how many legs did he have, so many were at home, “says a friend.

In recent years, P. Dabužinskas, according to the knowledge of the interlocutor, has not worked.

“As soon as he started having sepsis, he couldn’t work at all. He was in the hospital, they operated on him. True, from the hands of the doctors, he rushed home as soon as possible. Even the walls themselves were said to cure it. Paul repeated that he really did not want to die in the hospital. He also apparently realized that his strength might run out. As far as I know, when he was hit by more severe diseases, he stopped working. He would hardly have been successful in such health, since he himself had to be taken to the fifth floor to do the work here.

Although he felt that the last was coming, knowing his character, he took everything he could from life. He tried not to give in to sadness, “said P. Vainutis.

Buddy Anatoly: death was unexpected, but shocked by something completely different

The other friend of P. Dabužinskas not only had a close relationship with him, but they also lived together in England.

“The last time I had to communicate with him was on August 29. I felt a lot in his voice that he was wrong, both emotionally and physically. There was a lot of talk about health, life and the future. I was very happy that he recover, although he felt deeply that it was as if Povilas no longer spoke here, he was angry, excited and no longer so happy, rather pessimistic, “he remarked.

“I was surprised to see the ad he placed, in which eight packages of various strong drugs were photographed. Along with him he wrote: “I give to those who need to strengthen their health, because I no longer need them.” Then I got even more anxious. Of course, yesterday I checked the profile of another poster and this ad has already been removed in a strange way. All that was left was where he wrote that he was disabled and needed help with take-home food. It was September 2. And that is. He was unable to contact him again. Then I realized that I was sick and I thought that maybe I would be back in the Santarini clinics ”, considered the interlocutor.

The news of Paul’s death was shocking to Anatoly.

“It was unexpected, but I was surprised not because he went to Anapilin, I knew he was seriously ill. I was surprised that no one could even visit him, support him as a human being, help him at home with food. I myself have lived in England for more than 7 years. In 2015, while still in England, Paul was ill and in hospital. He asked for my help, of course I didn’t answer.

I took him home with me, on the second floor I gave him a room with a terrace. I found a job, I worked in a dessert factory, the job was warm and easy. He was happy with everything, we called him the sun for his radiant smile, positivity and warmth. But after completing the course of treatment, Povil began to make friends with strong drinks every day and to smoke heavily. Clearly, I told her, beautiful and angry, that I would be in the hospital again, that I would eventually die from it. And she used to say it was her business and she wouldn’t change a thing. She did not listen ”, said the interlocutor.

“Without these defects, he was a good person, cheerful, very positive, a good cook and very neat. He dreamed of Germany all the time and in 2016 he went there. I was very happy about that, I thought that for a person all this will only be good, it will change the environment, well, and homework, I thought, will not allow drug abuse. But sadly, I was wrong. His heart felt that he would fall and descend into the abyss.

For the last time, Paul appeared to be wearing a cheery mask, though there was a distinct pain in his eyes, a cry for help. It is a pity that we are far away and still that unfortunate coronavirus. I really wanted to go to him, but couldn’t help him.

Rest in peace, my dear friend. I miss you so much your laugh, your smile. Goodbye, Poviliuk. It will remain alive in our hearts forever, ”A. Borovičius sensitively concluded the conversation.