After three failed marriages, Violeta Repčenkaitė, who stayed in Malta, admitted: she had been in a toxic relationship

The model, a former television presenter on social networks, has given a publication to all the women who are going through a failed relationship and do not know how to change them.

“It just came to our attention then slices about a really necessary toxic relationship, maybe not for everyone, but from the plethora of messages from women in such a situation, I decided to talk about it.

A woman shared a request for help, she was overwhelmed by a toxic relationship, she asked how to get out of it. I believe that this decision should be made first of all by the person himself, claiming to himself that the environment in which he no longer adapts. But for some reason, even with this feeling, there are countless women who tolerate humiliation, psychological and physical violence. I have also been in a toxic relationship in my life, so in shared thoughts and in the necklace of my own experiences.

First of all, we must clarify to ourselves, as well as to others, if it turns out that this is not evident, the limits that no one should cross. No one should humiliate us, yell at us, I no longer speak of physical violence. Emotional violence also has dire consequences, often illness. If we want to be healthy, we must “get away” from any toxic environment, but only by consciously perceiving ourselves as a person worthy of living a happy life in health and joy can we do so.

It is also sad that children often see inappropriate examples of adult communication and also grow up scarred on the soul. Therefore, we must look at ourselves and also at children, if we do not want our children to become adults who will have to flirt with their wounds for many years and be bored for many years. We must model what is appropriate in a relationship and what is completely intolerable and unacceptable.

In anticipation of events, I say that the saying “you can’t let them treat you like this” will not work for your daughter if she has seen a bad example through us. By no means and I never encourage divorce, but if it is an unhealthy environment, protective in every way, it is simply not possible to stay in it. If everything has been tried and is still not visible at the end of the tunnel of light, disrespect, the herb of relationships, lurks in the flower gardens of relationships, other solutions should be sought. Often when I start to meditate, do yoga, do other practices, grow and take care of myself, many things become clear and certain behaviors that we have tolerated in the past become intolerable and separation becomes a matter of course., Sleepless nights. , weeping hills, etc. So we no longer ask how to end an inappropriate and harmful relationship, we simply choose to get out of it.

We need to take great care of ourselves and protect ourselves because no one is worthy of our tears and health is the most precious price you will have to pay for a close unconscious person. It is a great pity, but when we treat those who are close, we often get stuck in a pit, from which only we can get out behind the step. After such a journey, we get wounded, we lick our wounds for a long time and, God forbid, let them not turn into fatal wounds both outside and inside.

And let’s finally understand that love is not “peculiar”. She is or is not. Pure, beautiful, genuine, nurturing, loving. Otherwise it is not love. Something but not love. Love does not humiliate, it does not scream, it does not hit, it does not scare, it is not selfish. You can fool yourself for a long time and in a boring way, but only up to a point. Because everything has a price. Disgust for yourself, the greatest. And being with someone who oppresses us, disrespects us, does not value us and is an expression of disgust for ourselves at that moment.

Yes, we can really fool around for a while, we can be fabulously empathetic and believe in the most beautiful things, we can see in a person a beauty that he himself has not seen, but before cultivating someone’s abandoned garden, let’s look at ourselves. first. Don’t just have our own already withered flowers.

And in the end, if there are those who think that disrespect is present in all relationships, it certainly is not. There are almost 8 billion people in the world and among them are many people who respect themselves and others. And it does not matter at all if out of all those billions, we fell in love with someone who became a great lesson. This is not a verdict. So stick to the entrenched man and the relationship he destroys – a luxury. We are not eternal.

In no way should we be silent hating. Finding help for yourself is not a weakness. They are all worthy of the most beautiful relationship, worthy of living with respect and peace, cultivating and multiplying joy and happiness, ”Violeta wrote.