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Vilma now lives in a huge house near Berlin, and her emigration history is full of strange events and surprises; it’s hard to even believe that everything happened to just one person.
“My dad found an ad 18 years or even more ago that German men want to meet Lithuanian girls. I don’t like or like those things. But I tried. When you are 30 years old, you look at people completely differently than when you were 20 years. We met, we saw that there was nothing at all boy, the friendship began. I came to him a couple of times and everything – at the end of August he came looking for me with Anna Maria, we came here to live “, says the woman.
Vilma says that many Lithuanians came to Germany in a similar way 20 years ago, but it was not widely discussed. Before Lithuania joined the European Union, it was difficult to get to the West, where a more luxurious life could be expected, so marrying a foreigner was the easiest way out of Lithuania.
“Upload your photos, they are put in a catalog. German men come, they choose the girls they like. Then they go out to dinner with them, they have lunch. If you don’t speak German, there is an interpreter involved, ”says Vilma of backstage dating.
The woman says that most of the time, the couples that are so familiar to us get divorced, although at first it seems that everything will go well, but in the long run there will be friction, and then divorce. Vilma still lives with the German mechanic Ingo. They say they understand each other perfectly even without words, and when they settled down together they realized that they would be happy.
Before that, Vilma lived in Kaunas. Although she had been divorced from her first husband for some time, one was raising a daughter, but she says nothing was missing. But at that time it was fashionable to go live abroad, so she wanted to try it too. Vilma made the decision to leave with incredible ease.
“I did not think of anything, I did not even think that it could fail,” she remembers the beginning of the emigration and considers that if she had thought a lot, she might have been a single mother who stayed in Lithuania.
“It just came to our knowledge then. I gave in to action and came, we got married and that’s it. I didn’t even think about what would happen in a year, half a year, even though the first year after the wedding was a challenge. It took a lot to make the roundtable round. We said goodbye almost every weekend, and then we both realized we would be no different. From that point on, we ended all of our bullying divorces. Maybe I was more intimidating than him, ”Vilma opens.
“It just came to our knowledge then. He might have needed to adapt more to me, although I did too. I needed to adapt more to the whole integration, it was not that easy, although the man seemed German. In the same way with all his friends , his father-in-law. Everyone expected us to separate because when we started to build the house it was a tragedy. Everyone expected me to rob him. Although there was nothing to steal. I will build a house and then take it out. But things changed when we built the house Our common son was also born. And then he is 17 years old, “says Vilma.
The president of the Lithuanian community in Berlin says she has met dozens and maybe even hundreds of immigrants during all the years of emigration. Those who work, earn everywhere and the lazy, have no good in Lithuania or Germany. And hardworking people are loved and valued everywhere. Vilma herself assures that it was a responsible approach to work that gave her the opportunity to start her own business.
For all women in their fifties, who think that everything will not change a thing in life, Vilma jokingly offers to think less about age and more about work. Vilma recently completed another Bachelor’s – Business courses and from now on she intends to stop working for others. The old premises on the road will soon become Vilma’s restaurant.
“The greatest sacrifice is to leave my country,” says Vilma in the “No emigrants” program, which will be available this Tuesday at 7.30 pm. by LRT.
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