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After the outbreak of the new corona epidemic in the United States, thousands of households had to make changes to adapt. Offices and schools were closed at the same time and parents were forced to work from home, while at the same time having to look after their children around the clock and help them with distance learning.
Parents across America are burdened by this. In most cases, the additional burden falls on the mother.
A May survey by the Boston Consulting Group of parents in the United States, United Kingdom, France, Germany, and Italy found that participating families spend an additional 27 hours a week on household chores, parenting, and parenting. education, which is almost equivalent to a second job.
The increase in domestic work hours for women is 15 hours more than for men, reflecting the normal state before the new corona pandemic. Many other studies have similar findings.
The BBC spoke with three mothers in the United States, who shared how to cope with the increased pressure and their expectations of returning to normal life in the United States.
Katy schultz
Katie lives in rural Wisconsin with her 7-year-old daughter, Londyn. Katie and her two brothers own a dairy farm, which is just outside Fox Lake and has 400 cows.
Lund originally planned to go to full-time kindergarten, but kindergarten closed in March. It was supposed to be temporarily closed, but in early April, we all intuitively thought that it was impossible for the children to go back to school. Since then, our (center of gravity) has changed.
Then Lund became my little farm assistant and her (demeanor) was amazing.
The farm also offers opportunities. It sounds ridiculous, but we can practice the numbers. When he checked the cows, he read the ear tags for me, and when we were in the barn, we solved math problems. It’s like, “I have so many cows in the bullpen, I can only have so many, how many do I have to get?” It is definitely not a traditional kindergarten course as you imagined.
Put it right, like a roller coaster. When everything was hit for the first time, the restaurant and hospitality industries shut down and our market came to a standstill. We know that the education system, the hotel industry and the catering industry actually occupy the majority of our market share. This is a simple awakening.
Before the COVID-19 pandemic, we discussed the feasibility of selling beef on farms. So we picked up our pace and started selling beef in late April and early May.
Every morning I pray and read the Bible. I want to have a clear head at the beginning of the day and I realize that I don’t need to take care of everything.
I don’t hide my emotions. I let my son see my sadness, happiness and frustration so he knows that these feelings are normal and that these emotions can be controlled. But I also have to know that she is looking at me and how I react. How do I handle these feelings? Will I exercise or pray? Such a simple choice can teach you to manage your emotions.
This allows yourself to hope that one day you may have a bad day. Maybe a bad day or a bad hour is not a bad thing.
Octavia reese
Olivia, 37, artist, master’s student and single mother. She lives in Chicago, Illinois with three boys ages 7, 10, and 13, and works as an IT trainer at a children’s hospital.
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I am dedicated to training in surgery, and I am responsible for teaching medical records software in anesthesia, radiology and population health. But teaching at home is very difficult, especially when there are three children in the family, it has been chaos.
They are in the state of traditional brothers: running and then screaming, but nothing happens. In this context, it is very, very difficult for me to try to work. It irritates me with them because it is really difficult. I ask you to understand my words as adults. I have to keep repeating, “I’m in a training class now. I need you to be quiet, unless it’s an emergency and there is bloodshed, otherwise don’t bother me.” Children are really very cooperative in this regard.
It is really difficult to balance the lives of four people. And I’m a single mother, so no one can help me. As the mother of a single parent family, it all depends on me. I have to manage every function in the house, every task, pay every bill, check everyone’s chores. Many times I put the inspection work first.
If I have time, I’ll sleep when I’m tired, wake up, and move on. There is no doubt that exhaustion will hit me at some point, but now I can only move on. I try not to push the plan too far, because everything is changing. This must be temporary. I’ve been through so many uncomfortable periods, all I know is that it will all end eventually. So I keep focusing on the things in front of me.
Maisavel saldivar
Mesaville and her husband just moved to San Antonio, Texas, and live with children ages 5 and 15. She is a full-time teacher and student at the same time.
How the COVID-19 pandemic affects us
I am a mother, teacher, graduate student, and wife. The new corona pandemic has caused these roles to merge or diminish.
At the beginning of the confinement, her husband’s job in the oil industry was fired. She immediately began to learn a new skill and began a new career plan. She was not available for most of the day or night, so I was assigned (her) duties. In most cases, I have to give instructions to students and children at the same time. Sometimes I feel like I’m not enough, I want to do my best, but I’m tired when I get caught in two different ways.
The new corona virus has also taken people who are very special to us. The fear and uncertainty it causes almost paralyzes life.
“What if I’m not here?“
I am responsible for cooking and cleaning, as well as preparing lessons and studying for graduate courses.
I did my best to create opportunities for my husband to live in his own bubble and focus on his lessons. I don’t think he can handle it without me. I often ask him, “What if I’m not here?”
If the children are making noise or making a certain noise, the husband will look at me and point to his computer, which shows that he is too busy. I feel like a full time nanny.
