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Common images when parents take their children to public places – Photo: QUANG DINH
The fact that Bac Ninh’s child was kidnapped while out with his father in the park surprised many people. The story raises the question of what parents should do to allow their children to play safely in public.
According to experts, to limit the risks for children when they play in the parks, it is necessary to apply two factors: parents focus on observing and teaching their children the necessary skills.
Parents are distracted
Ms. Nguyen Thi Ut, who has more than 10 years of regular tree care in a park in District 1, Ho Chi Minh City, said: “When I water trees, weed, I often see children playing in the park. on a bench watching the majority hold the phone in their hand. Last year, I helped a girl with her legs sunk under a concrete deck, while her father put on headphones and played a game of passion. The baby cried but I wasn’t listening. As if I was going to the park to … the parents play on the phone.
He also regularly takes his 5-year-old son to the park on weekends, Mr. Pham Quoc Loc (who lives in Phu My Hung, District 7, Ho Chi Minh City) shares his visits to the park so that he can run and jump freely , change the air. gas. “When children play, I watch because they are afraid of falling, grabbing toys with their friends around or watching for strangers not to contact them. While playing, sometimes I surf the phone to kill time” – he Said Loc.
Master in Sociology Tran Nam – University of Social Sciences and Humanities (National University of Ho Chi Minh City) – says that parents are often distracted by phones or other smart devices, losing concentration, Observe your child in public. “Parks in Vietnam are open parks, often complicated by many different social sectors. This is not necessarily a safe place and there are no private security forces to solve problems in the park. Parents are not interested, they are not watching. Deviating, being kidnapped or even in danger of life is possible and has happened, although it is always planned “- admitted Mr. Nam.
Teach kids skills survival
Mr. Nam added: “Survival skills are an important factor. Children who are too young in their parents’ arms have not yet spoken. For those who are receptive, from the age of 4, their parents need it. Instruct some basic skills: do not go and do not accept confectionery gifts from strangers; teach children by phone number, house number, remember the name of the neighborhood, the area where you live … “.
Psychology teacher Le Minh Huan – Ho Chi Minh University of Pedagogy – analyzes public places for everyone and the risks of external environments such as insects, unsafe amusement parks and being pushed by others. push, lure, attack, even kidnap, abuse … “To be fair, most of the dangers that arise come from the subjectivity of the parents like thinking that the place is safe, I have been told, around many people, many other parents also chose this place, my children were good before, I was also careful …
The more subjective I am, the more difficult it will be when the unexpected situation occurs. Therefore, vigilance is always important, regardless of whether you leave your child at home or go out, “Huan said.
For children to play safely, according to teacher Le Minh Huan, before leaving, parents need to: tell their children to always be by their side; Teach your child the rules for dealing with strangers, dangerous situations, stray animals, public transportation. In addition, parents always keep an eye on their children, hold their hands, or keep a close enough distance to improvise if any unexpected situation occurs. Minimize the use of the telephone for personal work; focus on playing, talking and supporting children; choose a safe play area, appropriate for the child’s age …
It must educate skills for children.
In public places such as parks, bookstores, supermarkets …, parents give their children free space but always watch over their children – Photo: NH.HUY
Many parents are subjective, they lack vigilance in the care and education of their children; Children lack the skills to prevent and combat kidnapping. Therefore, it is necessary to educate children in skills, because parents and relatives cannot always be there to protect and care for children.
You need to construct good and bad hypothetical situations, thus teaching how to behave and practice regularly so that children form coping skills. For example, parents talk to their children about kidnapping and its consequences in the easiest way; it gives children the impression that they should be aware of what is not normal to happen to them.
Children also need to be taught to recognize “strangers they can trust” including: teachers, police uncle, soldier uncle, agency guard … so that when a dangerous situation arises they can Hope, thank you for the help. In addition, it is necessary to educate children not to speak, follow or accept objects (candy, toys …) from strangers. If someone doesn’t know and comes close, try asking questions, giving gifts, running away immediately, and telling parents about the incident. If strangers are dragged, carried away, or dragged, they should scream, cry loudly to draw attention to the people around them.
If your child has reached the age of hanging out unsupervised with his friends, parents tell him to always keep an eye out for the group of friends. Kidnappers often attack when the child is traveling alone. In particular, parents should not post on social networks (Facebook, Zalo …) personal information of children, such as where their children are studying or photographs showing their wealth and wealth. family. Because now criminals often “hunt” on social networking sites.
Faced with reality, when a child is kidnapped, the parents must appear at the police station closest to the place of residence, but the contact must be very confidential. You are not allowed to go to the police station, you can go to cafes or other meeting places. Because the kidnappers can be anyone, maybe neighbors, they will take care of their families and maybe they will kill people to cover them up.
Lieutenant Colonel Dao Trung Hieu (criminologist, Policeman) – T.THUONG noted
