Melania Trump ‘made clear the true feelings towards Donald in an unplanned move in a split second’

As Donald and Melania Trump pack their bags and prepare to move out of the White House, there is much talk about the state of their marriage.

His time as president and first lady has been filled with awkward moments, missed kisses, and unwanted attempts to hold hands.

There have been many reports that the Slovenian model is “counting every minute until he is out of office and she can get a divorce”, yet she has publicly released messages of support for her husband.

After analyzing the couple’s behavior for The Mirror, body language expert Bruce Durham believes that while Melania was a vital supporter of Trump early in his presidency, her “lack of empathy, caring, or even consideration” may be the reason this has changed.

He explains: “We’ve all been there and made it. We had a furious argument with our loved ones and as soon as the doorbell rings, we open it and greet the visitor as if we were the most in love couple that ever honored the earth! !

“In a split second we go from a more raw authentic way of ourselves to what we think is more of a socially acceptable presentation of what a couple should be like. You know exactly what I’m talking about!

“But what happens when you are the most powerful man on the planet? And, what is more interesting, how does this affect your love in the case, Melania Trump?”

“Instead of a seething eye when no one is looking, what clues can we take from a body language analysis perspective when two people are very cautious because the whole world is watching?

“Well, the beauty of body language is that it is autonomous. It is an automatic reaction that we have no control over. In a heartbeat, a look, a movement, a body reaction can give us a real feast of feelings to observe and discuss .

“There have been a lot of questions surrounding the status of Donald and Melania’s marriage. And now that Donald is the outgoing president, is she looking for a way out and is the dynamic changing now that the need for the ‘imposter syndrome’ to be present? Is it shrinking? How happens every day ..?

“So, let’s take a look here from a body language perspective to see what Melania thinks and feels regarding her emotional connection to Donald Trump.

“Interestingly, from an emotional perspective during the first inaugural ball of the presidents, it’s Donald who seems uncomfortable here.

“Now, we all have a relative who ‘dances like a grandfather’ long before his time (I put myself in that group), but Donald is really uncomfortable in this situation. In psychology we talk about the Individualized Zone of Optimal Function – when you are in ‘the zone’ or have reached your optimum performance point.

“In this dance, we see a glimpse of the fundamental lack of emotional connectedness surrounding Donald. Yes, he’s great with numbers, but as often with people like this, they can often struggle with the human connection.

“Melania has the credit that she is trying to guide Donald into having a simple dance. She is much calmer in this situation. As Donald speaks, she is the one holding him, as she knows that speaking is her way of awkwardly. “. through something you don’t enjoy or connect with.

As Donald fumbles to find his feet, Melania is all smiles, her broad hand on his back trying to guide his shoulders in the direction of what would be seen as a dance.

“Sometimes she uses her body, leaning in the direction she wants Donald to go. She knows that in this situation, in these specific five minutes, she is her only support mechanism and she is happy to offer that helping hand, although in pointing out that she it also looks very uncomfortable.

“What makes this quite funny, similar to Fawlty Towers, is that Donald is sublimely unaware that he looks awkward or out of reach.

“Even in this situation, her recognized narcissistic tendencies are in full flow. And is it these specific tendencies over time that are the reason we see Melania move away from her supporting rock to fully focus on caring? Of her self?

“Has Donald’s lack of empathy, caring, or even consideration influenced his behavior change?”

Bruce also uses his experience to try to explain the many awkward moments when Melania seems to take her hand away when her husband tries to hold her.

He continues: “A great example of how Melania seeks to focus more on herself is that famous short clip of when, after the presidential debate, Melania took Donald’s hand away. A lot of people used the term ‘snatched.’ One might ponder this. Was it intentional, what prompted you to do this or have we just done too much research?

“Well, let’s take a look at Melania’s ‘basic’ body language behavior and indeed her average emotional gifts. So most of the time (which is what we call the baseline of a subject’s behavior ) is happy to play his part, which means being a second fiddle for Donald.

“She is there as part of the cast. She looks to Donald for direction, as she is happy to accept his role in this play. He smiles when asked, stands where it is needed, brings beauty to the portrait Donald is trying to paint.

“But what we see in the short clip coming off the stage of the presidential debate is that she takes the initiative. She waits for no signal, no instructions, she goes and Donald can follow her if he wants, Melania doesn’t care. Now this is very different from your average body language behavior.

“And the way we know it’s different is if you look at Donald’s reaction. This is key to affirming and deciphering the ‘critical T junction’ of two-part interacting body language.

“You can tell from Donald’s reaction that this was not expected. Donald usually looks at the audience knowing that all eyes are on him.

“This time, he’s surprised by Melania’s direct action to walk away. His head turns and he looks at her like he wants to find out what’s going on.

“She is in the lead, he doesn’t need to look at her, he usually doesn’t look at her, but now he turns his head to try to understand the situation.

“And like many people in a negative situation (husbands, especially, will realize this when we have hurt our partners …), he approaches as if he wants to maintain an unwanted connection (at least from the Melania’s perspective), as it’s all lost at sea without her rudder, if only for that particular moment.

“Now the reason this is interesting is that, at the moment, it is not planned. There is no structure around it. She has fulfilled her role and is off work.

“When you look at something more formal like the official lighting of the White House Christmas tree video, you can see that Donald is back in charge. Melania stands to the side, looking directly at Donald.

“She is there with him, but it is not a joint delivery, it is her again as the supporting act. Even as he is counting down, she is trying to reach him so she can press the button according to her time. Filling a role here. .

“Coming off stage when he takes his hand away, and the way Donald reacts to that, gives us a glimpse of what’s really going on inside his head and heart.”

But the big question on everyone’s lips is whether their marriage will leave after they leave the White House.

Bruce says: “With Donald’s lack of empathy for others, with his belief that it’s all about him, with him dripping into narcissistic behaviors, and with rumors that Donald is having affairs, Melania has accepted in her own head that love in the heart is worth more than dollars in your purse?

“Are you ready to go as the show is coming to an end and you feel like you no longer need to play that character?

“Well, from the perspective of basic body language analysis, the tide is turning, something is turning, and it wouldn’t be a surprise that if she didn’t let him, she takes on a more powerful and formidable role in the relationship that goes on.

“And good for her I say!”

• Bruce Durham, known as BelievingBruce, is a body language analysis expert who teaches seminars across the corporate world and helps leaders develop psychological security and caring for their people. Read more at www.believingbruce.com and on his YouTube channel here www.youtube.com/believingbruce.