Dear Abby: I think my parents are enabling me to take advantage of my sister.
She has endured depression for most of her life. She has two children aged children and children, before CO Weed, she suffered from depression and was a stay-at-home mom for six years.
Back in March, she asked my parents to pick up an 8-year-old child for the rest of her school year. For the past several months, one or both of her children have been here at our home. Mind you, she and her husband live five hours away, so she’s not like the people closest to her. Now my parents are talking about keeping them next year.
Mom just retired last year and has rarely been able to enjoy retirement alone with my retiree. When my brother and I bring up the subject of enabling his sister to seduce her children by blaming her frustration, her response is, “Well, it’s better than going to her deep end.”
I also feel bad that those kids aren’t with their own parents instead of being trapped around.
Do I think it is wrong for her to be allowed to be a bad parent?
Associated in KOR Larado
Dear Concerned: The COVID-19 epidemic and subsequent quarantine have led to discomfort and severe depression in people who were previously emotionally resilient. It’s not surprising that it can bring repetition to someone with indifference.
Your mother and stepfather are doing what feels best for their grandchildren, your sister and them. Accept it and stop guessing them. At the moment you have more than enough to deal with without adding more stress.
Dear Abby: I am the happiest, most caring, loving man in my life. We knew each other years ago when we married other people. Three years ago, after many years of marriage, he told me to go inside.
We are great together. He has embraced my two children and especially my two great-grandchildren because there was no one in his previous marriage.
Because I would bring more into his life than anyone else, so I proposed to him seven months ago, and he said yes. We talked, and he pleaded with Prinup, which is good with me because his ex took a large sum.
I have asked a few times after the proposal if he has spoken to his cousin, whom he trusts is a lawyer, but I do not believe this is going on.
Since you don’t want anyone to do anything because of their attitude, I’ve stopped asking. He knows I need financial security.
I’ve always done exactly that through them – that’s who I am. At the moment, I am enjoying my privileged life with my doctor colleague, who loves me very much but does not seem to be able to take the next step by respecting our relationship. Am I worthy of letting it go?
Wait, for now
Dear Wait: I agree that they are not inclined to do anything like you can’t do anything to anyone. Because drafting a prenuptial agreement seems to have stalled, raise the issue again and ask if he or she is sorry for accepting your proposal or if he or she is willing to move on. He will like things as much as he likes, and if he is willing to give and you need more, you have to move on. Three years is enough time to decide if he wants to make your romance permanent.
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