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You can establish new habits for a happier life, but there is still one thing that gives some of us a powerful advantage.
Norwegians always succeed when the UN elects the happiest people in the world.
In 2019 we took fifth place, but previously we have been even higher. However, it is worth noting that the measurement does not really capture the feeling of happiness, but rather measures the factors that we know should lead a good life: income, life expectancy, social care, freedom, trust and generosity.
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At the same time, self-help books sell very well in a country graced with the title of “one of the happiest in the world” and, ironically, it is especially books with tips for a happier life that spearhead the best seller list.
Can you read to a happier life? Or are only some of us born happy?
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Six habits
Inc has delved deeply into happiness research and describes the research-based keys to a happier life in the form of habits that happy people practice.
With these six habits you can start with today, you don’t need money or status.
1. They are inspired by kindness.
Psychologist Jonathan Haidt describes it as “elevation,” the feeling that you feel when you witness someone doing good deeds for others. It is a kind of increased happiness, a sense of being elevated, that comes from seeing people be kind, brave, and support each other.
Have you ever felt it yourself, a sudden joy of seeing someone help an old woman across the street? Or the feeling of being touched when you see someone hugging you?
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Haidt’s studies show that there are such experiences that inspire us to do good deeds ourselves, which gives good relationships and positive feedback, which in turn fuels the feeling of happiness.
2. They forgive easily
The easier it is to let go of negative emotions like irritation and anger, the more room you have for positive feelings.
The wording shows that those who forgive more easily gain easier access to the feeling of happiness.
3. They are curious
Studies show that curious people are more attracted to others, and it’s not really that strange.
Who would you rather spend time with? A person who is curious about what you are doing, thinking and, above all, who are you? Or does someone want to talk about themselves and theirs?
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4. Express gratitude
Research shows that expressing gratitude can increase feelings of happiness by as much as 25 percent.
It came up when a group of people were asked to write down five things they were thankful to have happened during the past week. They did it for 10 weeks, reporting 25 percent more happiness than those who focused on negative or neutral events.
There are many ways to express gratitude, but the point is to remember the positive things in life. Some keep a so-called “gratitude journal,” others list positive things for them each morning or afternoon.
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5. They are generous
In a study of more than 600 participants, generosity was revealed to be a crucial factor in the pursuit of happiness.
The more money you invested in other people, the happier people were.
Here we can also recognize ourselves, because isn’t it good to be able to spend on others? Are you not happy to buy dinner or a small gift for a good friend?
6. are patient
“Whoever expects something good does not wait in vain,” we say, and there is probably something in it.
A 2012 study shows that patient people more easily reach their goals and are also more satisfied when they reach them.
Additionally, research shows that patient people feel fewer negative emotions, such as stress and depression.
It’s all about relationships
However, although the six factors are different, there is something that remains:
Happy people’s actions, such as being kind, patient, and generous, strengthen their relationships with other people. It is also not difficult to understand, as we know that Social relationships are by far the most important factor when it comes to having a happy, long and healthy life.
When it comes to happiness research, few outperform the Harvard research team. In a study of more than 80 years, in which participants have been followed every two years since 1938, they have concluded the following:
– Happiness is not about wealth, fame, or working harder and harder. The clearest message that we bring from this study is the following: good relationships are what make us happier and healthier. Finished talking.
Harvard study director and scientist Robert Waldinger stated in a 2015 TED talk.
Good relationships are by far the most important ingredient in a happy life. And not only that: relationships are also the most important factor in living a long and healthy life.
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And the most important thing is not the quantity, but the quality.
Therefore, it is maintained with some close, but good relationships. Whether you are a boyfriend, a friend, or a family member, there must be someone you trust, dare to lean on and feel safe.
Born happy
So to a large extent, you are a blacksmith of your own happiness, so by the way, you can make yourself happy. But there are some of us who have a better starting point for a happy life.
As with everything to do with personality, genes play an important role. Some of us are almost smiling out of the mother’s life.
In 2007, happiness researcher Ragnhild Bang Nes wrote his doctorate on the importance of genes in each individual’s sense of happiness, and then concluded that genes control “80 percent of stability in both mental health and poor health. “
HAPPINESS INVESTIGATION: Ragnhild Bang Nes has been investigating happiness for 15 years.
Photo: Kjersti Westeng (Mediehuset Nettavisen)
A little more popularly explained: Your basic feeling, that is your level of personal happiness, is genetically determined by 80 percent.
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The environment affects us throughout our lives, but if you are born with a smile on your face, then you clearly have a better starting point for living a happy life.
– If you smile a lot, people smile back. His bright mood leads him into situations that spark positive emotions, and when he gets positive responses, his bright mood is already improved. This is how you like to go through life, Bang Nes explained to Nettavisen in a previous interview.
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Similarly, those born with the glass half empty will experience negative effects:
– If you are heavier at heart, you can often get into the negative. This in turn arouses negative feelings and reactions from others, and you often end up with a weaker network and greater loneliness.
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