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Popular JTBC drama “The Couple’s World” watched by a divorce attorney
JTBC drama <부부의 세계>Is Ji Sun-woo (Kim Hee-ae) a good divorce or a wrong person? No, is there a “good divorce”? <부부의 세계>As it is popular, it is raising several questions about divorce. I asked attorney Cho In-seop, 45, a domestic bar lawyer certified by the Korean Bar Association and who runs a new divorce / inheritance law firm, Shinsegae-ro.
Lawyer Jo, who met at Seocho-dong in Seoul on the 29th of last month, said there was no divorce because “only his son (an immoral spouse) was removed from my life” that Jiwoon wanted. “It is a story only available in dramas. If you have children even after the divorce, even if your children grow up, you will have no choice but to stay connected until you get married. ” Attorney Jo has addressed the reality of the recent divorce case. <이제 나를 위해 헤어져요>He also published a book, Wisdom House.
In divorce mediation, there are no winners or losers.
Without hurting
After proper division of property.
If you know your child even after divorce
Relatively “successful divorce”
– <부부의 세계>Is Ji Sun Woo a winner or a loser?
“On the property side, I think I won the first leg. However, in the context of the drama, it seems that everyone is hurt and everyone is defeated. It is advisable to divorce when the wounds of the mind are somewhat healed and the emotions are purified. Otherwise, the sediment will not go away even after the divorce. Finally the wound returns to the child. “
-Do you have a divorce that everyone wins?
“There is a story in divorce court where there are no winners or losers. However, if there is a relatively “successful divorce”, it would be the case that the parties did not cause serious injury, properly completed the division of property, and continued to meet their children after the divorce and had a good relationship. “
Sometimes there are exceptions. In rare cases, some spouses are just “cool.” Lawyers are said to ask such clients. “Can I really do this? Won’t you regret it later?
-In terms of women (mothers), child custody seems to be the biggest problem. Another drama <화양연화>It turns out that heroin gave up alimony and alimony in exchange for her custody and her husband’s divorce.
“The drama is a bit like an old story. Today, when it comes to custody, the mother is absolutely advantageous. Clients have also become smarter and realize they are advantageous. Even men know it. However, if you give up child support and child support, the divorce process can end quickly. One more thing, even if you give up child support at the time of the divorce, you can claim it later in a separate lawsuit. “
-Again <부부의 세계> Speaking There is a scene where Ji Sun-woo takes her son to a dangerous place and forces him to “live with me”. May be a problem?
“This would actually be a huge disadvantage in a divorce lawsuit. You are close to threatening a child. “
-How much do your child’s doctors reflect when determining custody?
“Doctors for children over 13 are almost absolutely reflected. Unless the child wants to be abusive or have a mental illness. However, children under the age of 8 are not considered true doctors. This is because young children are often “loyal” to the people they raise. “
-What do you want to do for your children after and after the divorce process?
“In the divorce process, it is of utmost importance that the child is not injured. Of course, most couples do not dishonor others in front of their children. However, children will feel the body even if the parents do not speak. That’s why children’s stress is severe. “
– <부부의 세계>In Ji Sun-woo, the boy is reluctant to meet his father.
“No matter how much the other person hates you, you are the father of the child. I wonder if I need to confuse my son. Children think that their parents (who don’t live together) are abandoned if they don’t want to see them. When you enter puberty, it can also be a cause of rebellion. “
-Your son may not want to meet.
“As I said before, children are often ‘loyal’ to their caregivers. It’s like thinking ‘because my mom doesn’t like me meeting my dad.’ It’s a good idea to gradually increase the amount of time spent on negotiations the interview. One day in the beginning, then two days and one night … If you have psychological trauma, it is desirable to combine psychotherapy. “
-There seems to be an illusion of division of property. Property formed after marriage can receive 50% unconditionally ….
“It is important where the property came from. After a marriage, the property that a couple won and bought can approach 50%. However, if one of the couples is the property they brought while they were married, things would be different. However, even in this case, if the marriage period exceeds two years, even a small percentage will be divided. “
Acquaintances who hid even after meeting her husband.
Damage is unlikely to be recognized.
Divorce counseling increased from Corona
“The same space, together for a long time”
– <부부의 세계>Esau Ji-woo feels deeply betrayed when her neighbors learn about her husband’s wishes. If you have these acquaintances, can you claim damages?
“If you are directly responsible for a marriage breakdown, you can also claim damages from a third party. For example, men of incest, women of incest, older parents, artisans, mother-in-law, etc. However, is it possible to recognize the hidden responsibility of the neighbors as the direct responsibility for the breakdown of the marriage? (Even if I file a lawsuit) I think it’s highly unlikely that it will be accepted. “
Joe Lawyer’s book <이제 나를 위해 헤어져요>On the scene, a tree appears reflecting a new trend. It is the “right to negotiate the interview for puppies”. He said that his wife wants a divorce, so he took his dog and went home. My husband does not want a divorce, but he was particularly distressed that he was unable to see his dog during the divorce. The judge in charge of divorce mediation “adjusted to be able to” interview “the puppy three weekends a month.”
-The custody of the animals or the negotiation rights of the interview are not guaranteed by law or by precedents.
“In the United States, there are precedents related to pet custody and interview negotiation rights. However, animals are still considered “things” in the Korean legal system. It is a matter that needs to be reviewed. ”
-I would not recommend that everyone go to counseling to enter the divorce process.
“I do not recommend divorce. When asked “Do you want to divorce or not?”, The lawyer responds: “Your choice is yours.” Even if others want to say, “Why do you live like this?” Each person has his own life and cannot interfere. On the other hand, even if you want “Why divorce something like that?” However, if you get to a really trivial matter, it is recommended that you “get advice.” If you say, ‘I want to divorce because my husband doesn’t pay my living expenses,’ I ask him, ‘Is it better to get a divorce? A husband who has not paid the cost of living together is unlikely to give up after he is finished. It is fine for those who are divorced and can get help from their parents. If not, I’ll be calm and honest. “
I asked the question ‘Excuse me’. Have you ever seriously considered divorce as an attorney representing a divorce law firm with 14 attorneys?
“Is there anyone who has never thought about divorce in their marriage? (Laughs) When we met with divorce attorneys, we exchanged jokes:” Okay, if you get divorced, I’ll take care of the argument. “
-In the book, ‘Marriage is optional, but divorce is determined’.
“Marriage is a process that blesses everyone, and divorce is not. You never say you need courage when you get married. However, divorce requires great courage. Even if there are no financial problems, it is the only social perspective. It is a way that others have not been. ”
-If there is anything you want to tell someone who is thinking about getting divorced now.
“I want you to think about why you want a divorce and to think about how my life will change after the divorce. In particular, the economic part is a factor that cannot be ignored. I think if you choose a divorce then you have to be a supporter. That’s what a divorce attorney does.
Does Corona 19 have a relationship with divorce? I asked if there was a change in the number of queries.
Divorce counseling has increased a bit. Meanwhile, when the people who have somehow resisted stay together in the same space for a long time due to Corona 19, ‘I can’t take it anymore. Now is the time to make a decision. “People who hate the other person and want to separate also come from the province.”
A lawyer is an emotional worker who listens to the depressed and angry. Divorce lawyers are more intense in emotional work. This is because clients count and retell the suffering. As a lawyer, a person is annoying. “If the lawyer is upset, the client is more upset,” said lawyer Cho. How to relieve stress. His answer is Tai Chi, who has practiced for 16 years.
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