I’m afraid I damaged my great teen daughters

Dear Amy: My husband and I have two amazing teenage daughters. They are mature, intelligent and conscientious.

Columnist Amy Dickinson (Bill Hogan / Chicago Tribune)

I am very proud of her and look forward to seeing what she does in her life, but this is also where my fear lies.

They grew up witnessing an unusual code-dependent relationship between their father and me.

Although we are currently working on a healthy solution, I’m afraid some of the damage has already been done.

Our daughters were never in danger, and as parents we have always tried to prioritize their needs over our own, but I also see some of my not-so-admirable traits of low self-control and hints of his addictive behavior in them.

I’m afraid they’ll make the same mistakes and choose unusual habits and / or relationships.