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“I don’t know what I’m doing wrong right now,” I repeat, leaning towards the webcam.
“Yes, now I understand,” responds my therapist. “So you are responsible for all your problems?”
“The problem is that I preach water and drink wine.” For years, all of my blog posts have been about accepting my body to be imperfect, unshaven, disproportionate, rolled or wrinkled. What do I accept? vacation element! Then the epidemic broke out and my followers multiplied. Now together we celebrate the final triumph of the new normcore! Oh, but it’s surprising that images crawling across the internet are finally fluttering in the same playful outfit as movie stars and the average person. I publish a dozen unfiltered photos and a philosopher with them that we should reject the cosmetic ideal of beauty based on consumption, and in response, instead of trolls armies going against me, tastes fall.
Someone yells at the gang. I look out the window, I don’t see anyone. I look at the clock over the oven. It is two minutes.
“So the problem is that everything is in vain,” I try to summarize quickly.
My therapist’s face is motionless. Based on the blurred image, I can’t decide if you are listening or if the line is broken.
“Sorry, the network is stuttering,” I say.
“Yes, I see,” responds my therapist. – Unfortunately, I can’t help it.
Dear reader, this mini-novel was born on the occasion of the publication of the first volume of stories in the Index. the It’s hard for god It contains 26 stories from seventeen important authors of contemporary Hungarian prose literature. The volume can be purchased here.
Quarantine for a few more weeks and we’ll finally know each other’s true hair color!
A few more months and I’ll be clear in the fall :(!
– Facebook is full of similar posts, suggesting that voluntary quarantine also means that many must be without a salon. (Despite the fact that unlike many countries, Hungarian regulations allow hairdressers and pedicurists to continue to receive guests, but many prefer not to take risks.) We have written in more detail in this article about the fact that this condition It can usher in an era of home haircuts.
- Why is it so rare that a familiar woman undertakes it when it falls?
- Why are more and more people campaigning against hair coloring?
- Does quarantine change the relationship with gray hair when we can’t go to the hairdresser?
Some people don’t have questions anymore, And there are those who read the Index.
But there is another aspect of the lack of haircuts, the discounts that mainly affect women. Anyone who dyes their hair regularly knows that after about 4 to 6 weeks, the actual color of the hair will appear in the hair follicles, and the longer it takes for the new dye, the more dramatic the difference between real and dyed hair will be. . This is especially noticeable when someone is already graying or just graying under the paint. (Of course, there is a way to color your hair at home, but many are not patient, skilled, or entrepreneurial enough to do it.) Some celebrities, comedian Sarah Silverman, Kevin Hart or actress Kelly Ripa, have already posted about her growth, proving that now that’s so much more. We have to worry, there is nothing wrong with this in the world of heaven.
Old and unassuming
It is also clear from these observations that there is something wrong with it anyway. How unacceptable gray hair is, especially for women, is well illustrated by the reactions that occurred last November when Keanu Reeves appeared on the red carpet at the LACMA Art + Film Gala with his new girlfriend. Alexandra Grant is a good artist, 46 years old and completely fall.
The latter sparked the sensational press astonishment, but the comments on the articles were not more friendly. Most wrote that the woman must have been much older than the actor (not that Reeves is 55 years old), and many compared her to Helen Mirren, who by the way is 74 years old and also has gray hair. Additionally, many felt they needed to communicate that Grant with unpainted hair was making an old and unassuming impression on the movie star side.
Alexandra Grant did not react to the attacks on her appearance at first, then posted on her Instagram about why she doesn’t dye her hair. She shared a study in the International Journal of Cancer that examined nearly 50,000 women that regular hair coloring and chemical hair straightening increase the risk of breast cancer. He described that he had already started to turn gray in his twenties, coloring his hair for years, but at thirty he decided not to poison himself anymore. And anyway, she supports every woman to look the way she wants, and we need to talk about beauty expectations.
Strong and inspiring message
Even more surprising was the way the press and the public responded to Jane Fonda’s new hair color after this year’s Oscars gala. Fonda presented him with the award for best film, and his hair was completely autumnal instead of the usual blonde. And the press celebrated as a kind of heroic act that an 82-year-old actress appeared with gray hair in an event seen by millions. the vogue she wrote directly to the dignified, strong and inspiring message that the actress, who has lived by her own rules, has sent to women. the tutor and expressed hope that a new trend can begin.
Photo: Craig Sjodin / Getty Images Hungary
So if an 82-year-old star appears with gray hair, it’s inspiring, but if a woman in her forties does the same, she has no pretense. After that, it’s no surprise that only a few stars in Hollywood face fall: alongside Jane Fonda and Helen Mirren, Judi Dench, Jamie Lee Curtis, Diane Keaton, and Emma Thompson. They are over sixty years old, many of them over seventy. The youngest, but most likely also gray-haired stars, on the other hand, dare to be born for a role at most, they are not at risk in civilians.
However, social media campaigns for gray hair adoption began appearing on social media for years, long before the forced hair loss caused by the coronavirus. One of the best known is the Instragram site called grombre (gray ombre) with 183,000 followers, which aimed to “radically celebrate the natural phenomenon of gray hair.” In the photos, we see women who do not dye their gray or gray hair despite the fact that most of them are quite young, in their twenties, thirties, forties.
In addition to the images, we can read little stories about when they started to turn gray and when and why they decided not to dye their hair anymore. The reasons are extremely diverse: from the health problems caused by the dye, from allergic reactions to environmental considerations, to the point that today it is no longer a rebellion for someone to dye their hair a crazy color, but to do nothing and let it turn gray.
Dare to be gray in Hungary
We now live in a world that is unusual for everyone. You can read lots of suggestions on what to do at home to stay meaningful. I don’t want to join this line, you know better what you have left anyway. All I have to do is show from time to time: Zebra striped hair feels good even when grown at home
– this message Andri Diána Dare to be gray! You can read it on their Facebook page called. However, Diana’s gray hair is not due to quarantine, she decided about a year and a half ago to stop dyeing her hair, which she had been doing for 14 years at the time. At first, in his twenties, he started to turn gray, but then he didn’t even think about letting others notice. “It was so encoded in me that gray hair equals old age, modesty, abandonment, that it never even occurred to me,” he told Index.
Research on the aging of Hungarian women
Along with another group of naturally gray Hungarian women, the Silver Woman, Andán Diána also conducted (not representative) research on the subject this year. In February, almost 500 women completed their online questionnaires. For the most part, the 1930s, 1940s, and 1950s were asked about their attitudes and experiences toward aging. The vast majority of respondents (90 percent of them) are already in the fall, and surprisingly a third of them had their first hair before the age of 30. There was almost complete agreement among the surveyed women (95 percent) that Hungarian society views aging of women and men differently and is less acceptable to women.
Consequently, two thirds of them, as soon as they discovered the gray fibers, immediately dyed their hair or pulled out the autumn fibers with tweezers. At the same time, one in five women had their hair naturally gray from the first moment. Several have indicated that it is precisely due to hair coloring that they cannot determine how long and how long they have been gray. Every second woman sees gray or gray hair as primarily natural and identical, but 14 percent say it is old, messy, or unpretentious. He sees 16 percent as adoptive, especially in the younger age group.
Only 15 percent of respondents indicated that their hair is not dyed due to health problems (allergies), environmental awareness, or financial considerations. The sad lesson from the research is that a quarter of gray-haired women clearly experience that their environment does not admit to giving up hair dyeing.
Later, however, he began to feel more and more disturbed than a host of chemicals on his scalp each month. It was an even stronger inspiration for her to step out of her comfort zone, in case she dared to make equally brave decisions in other areas of life. Although with the support of her husband and daughters, they were among her most distant acquaintances who protected her against gray hair. “They were concerned that this would make them look older, more careless, and that they might be disadvantaged because of that,” she says, adding that she had never felt that her hair color was disadvantaged in the job market, but she knew of someone who yes.
It also helped her decision to see many positive foreign examples on social media, women who teased her gray hair at a young age but who were still beautiful and attractive anyway. At the same time, he noticed that (then) there were no Hungarian examples, especially not in the younger age group, so he created his Facebook and Instagram page. Since then, he has met several women whom he has inspired for this decision, but many are also being followed by those who are simply flirting with the idea of letting their hair down. He emphasizes that he did not want to start an anti-hair dye movement in any way, he said that hair dye has its place. It is only intended that this trip can also be considered a valid option.
As for the current period, he says quarantine is a good time to experiment.
Many people tell me that I have an easy job because I am beautiful. But how could I have known in advance? I didn’t see it until I tried it
He relates, adding that everyone can now try it with impunity, and then if they don’t like it they can repaint it. Of course, the complete loss of long, colored hair takes years, but now everyone involved can assess at home how gray it is to go to this complexion, how much you can get used to loving it.
Of course, nobody thinks that just because we have to be without hairdressers now, suddenly everyone will accept their original hair color and in a few months there will be crowds of forty years running through the gray hairs on the street. But perhaps we face the mirror a little more boldly and wonder if we really don’t like its color, or rather its meaning, in gray hair. It is reminiscent of aging and dying, from which we cannot escape even if we buy all the hair dyes in the world.
Getting ready: the bra.
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