Tagin announced early Thursday that she and her husband, John Legend, had lost their baby in the middle of the pregnancy.
“We are shocked and the kind of deep-seated pain you’ve just heard about, the kind of grief we’ve never felt before,” Tigen wrote on Twitter. However, we were never able to stop the bleeding and give the baby the fluids it needed. That was not enough. “
As much as she gains support for being so vulnerable with her audience, commenters on her posts question her decision to share intimate details and photos about a topic that is often not talked about openly.
Silence is a long-standing culture
Mindy Bergman, a professor of psychology at the University of Texas A&M, said, “What this idea means is, ‘People don’t know you’re pregnant until your pregnancy is lost.’ “This is what it means when we say‘ safe ’. So already this stigma is from the beginning, this is a shame for the prospect of losing it. “
And even though the stigma prevailed, Tejin was coming up on social media about her third pregnancy, her long complications in her placenta, heavy bleeding and her struggles through the advice of her doctor for bed rest.
Tagin recently said that her IVF pregnancy felt “untouchable and safe” and that this pregnancy has left her feeling.
Comfort through shared damage
Lisa Patel, a pediatrician at a San Francisco hospital, was not too far away during her pregnancy when she had an abortion, but she told CNN she knew something like the loss of a tigan.
“I’m just so thankful that she (Tegin) put herself there,” he said. “Because you just feel lonely until I start talking about it.”
Patel was joined by hundreds of women and families who have opened up on social media about their experience of loss after the Tigan announcement, even though it is difficult to talk on the subject.
“I think people are more capable of sharing on Twitter with whom they are less willing to share in personal relationships with people,” he said. “I think it’s a great thing about social media – you feel more comfortable, weird than that.
“But I hope that if you want to share it in a public forum, it also means that you are willing to share it with people who are struggling in your network.”
Amy Cuo-Hammermann lost four pregnancies and said, “Feeling we have ‘Run out of gas’ emotionally.
“It’s easy to get to know celebrities,” Kuo-Hammerman said, “especially when celebrities are partly busy because of how they present themselves as‘ real ’, as is Chrissy Tygan. “So, when you hear them sharing something that is hard to get through and talk about, it can change the culture around the subject.”
‘Women get angry at their bodies for being frustrated’
And every woman explores her pregnancy in a unique way – unique in the way the process involves grief and loss, Len Lane said.
“Everyone’s journey is different,” he said.
“When someone loses their baby, whether it’s 6 weeks or 26 weeks, it doesn’t matter,” Ellen said. “As soon as you are pregnant you know that you have hopes and dreams for that baby. They will be like you, you have this idea in your mind about what they are going to do. It’s not just all go. You have to process it. . ”
Ellen said mothers go through a roller-coaster of stages when they experience pregnancy complications: followed by imperfection, guilt, anger and grief.
“Women are angry at their bodies for being frustrated,” he said. “But the body does what it wants to do.”
Photos as a reminder
Tejin’s photos on social media from her hospital room have led some to wonder if she’s sharing. Some even asked who took these pictures and why Taig felt the need to post about such a personal experience.
His field of mourning photography is not uncommon, Hochberg told CNN.
Tagin’s celebrity status lends itself to investigation and expands her photos, but everyday people also prefer to freeze these moments over time with their child.
Hochberberg said he has had the privilege of staying in a hospital room with 500 to 600 families to date.
“I also feel alive that these strangers gave me access to their world in the most delicate moments of their lives,” he said.
Breath photography is not for everyone, Hochberg said. Ultimately, he said, his goal is to provide the family with lasting memories.
“There has been a cultural paradigm shift in understanding and supporting families facing perinatal loss and I hope I have contributed to that by sharing images in their love circles by parents.”
October October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month
CNN’s Julia Carpenter, Mad Dalen Holcombe and JS Satto contributed to this report.
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