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“Uncle, but I have a question! Are you gay? ”Was the question that, in March 2016,“ La Botota Fox ”, José Miguel Navarrete, asked Andrés Caniulef live on the now-defunct program SQP.
The query surprised the journalist who at that time had not spoken publicly about his sexual orientation. Caniulef answered affirmatively and his answer caused a difficult family moment that the professional remembered in Sigamos de Largo.
In the late Channel 13 Caniulef referred, among other topics, to the rehabilitation process he completed this year, his career and how his parents lived that moment of 2016 and then his rehabilitation. This was part of this last conversation:
Fran García-Huidobro: “Your dad says, and he says it graphically, what it means to change a child’s diapers. Was that the bottom of the well, Andrés? “
Andrés Caniulef: “Yes, the bottom of the well was seeing my parents that way, worried, fearful. My parents went through a very agonizing process. Fortunately, they had a lot of support, a lot of company, but it wasn’t easy.
“Over several years they carry over from what I made them live. And I take responsibility for what happened, but not with guilt, but also with pride and affection. Because today I also have the possibility of making them feel proud again; to return to give you a smile and every achievement I have I communicate them
“Unfortunately we have been separated this last time by the quarantine, but the communication has been better than ever before. The affection that I feel today and that I do not repress I can express in all the ways I can “
García-Huidobro: “When you’re stuck in the drug mud, I think that one of the people who hurts the most is the family, your loved ones who see helplessly how you destroy yourself and can’t do anything because you don’t let them. What was the most painful thing that you think your parents went through, or what did you do that you regret, what you did to them? “
Caniulef: “I think the hardest and saddest thing was to deny them, to abandon them. There was a moment when I denied it, but basically because of the difficulties that arose due to my sexual orientation and it was difficult to face that with them.
“But today, after so long, I can understand why it was. If finally the one who was prepared to generate that communication and the one who had the obligation to do so was me. So I was the one who did not have the courage to do it or repressed the need to do it. Because when it happened, regardless of the fact that there was a small duel, my mom and dad said ‘well, what else? I just want you to be happy ‘”
Maly Jorquer: “At the end you were the one who thought they were going to be violent, discriminatory”
Caniulef: “As it is”
Fuck: “Did they find out on television?”
Caniulef: “Yes”
García-Huidobro: “There is an episode there, that happened on the SQP program, that La Botota … I don’t know what La Botota will think of that episode today, but nobody was prepared for that television moment and in fact, the next day you and I were working in Maldita Moda and we did an interview with you. Were your parents really taken completely by surprise by this? “
Caniulef: “Of course, it is a question that I have also asked myself and I have asked them, and my parents tell me that yes, indeed, perhaps they blocked themselves in such a way that they never wanted to see it. But someone came who yelled in their faces that yes “
García-Huidobro: “Did that episode bother you?”
Caniulef: “For me it was difficult because of that, because of what it meant for them, because they were not prepared to live it, that’s what I mean with this building that one has as a base. When that happened, which was perhaps also a first sign that there were things in me that were not resolved, I was completely broken and blocked. I was before the episode of Damn Fashion and my sister calls me to tell me that my mother is very sick and that she wants to talk to me but she doesn’t dare.
“So I cut the phone and they say ‘on the air’. And it’s how I live that moment, how I live that transit, it was very difficult to cope “
García-Huidobro: But it is an episode that you appreciate, or would you have liked to do it your way, at your time, at your time? I insist, I don’t know what La Botota will think of that episode today, but I have the feeling that she is not proud of that “
Caniulef: “I imagine not, I think it is a very complex situation for anyone. Orientation is clearly a personal issue, above all it is an issue that one has to reveal in front of the family.
“Putting La Botota aside, the lesson for me and for anyone who lives and who is facing a situation like this, speak honestly, never be afraid. It is probably not easy, there is probably a lot of tears and maybe recrimination from them, because there are still parents who blame themselves, ‘maybe I am responsible for my son being gay’, for clearly wrong thoughts “
Minutes later, the journalist’s parents greeted him in a video and said that both were infected with coronavirus:
García-Huidobro: “I imagine that within the points of your rehabilitation your parents have a lot to do, you have two sisters, to feel again that they are proud of you”
Caniulef: “Yes. One of the great gifts that this process gave was embracing the love of my parents. Having that family reunion where today we have had to overcome difficult situations as a family as a result of the contagion from my parents “
Joke: “Your mom and dad had covid”
Caniulef: “My dad was hospitalized. So, one, to have the peace of mind that I am doing something for them; and two communication and the sufficient dedication of all of us, to together make strength and move forward ”.
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